My husband often has trysts with other women, but after I exposed him, he angrily smashed his phone

Reader's Letter

Hello Brother Shan, my husband always rents a house for other women, chats every day, or meets, but he never admits to his infidelity. He always says no, and I have used various methods to endure it for several months. As long as that woman appears in this city, he immediately goes to meet her, but in front of me, he keeps saying it off.

In the past two days, I found out that they met again, and sometimes it was midnight. I finally broke out and started arguing with him. In the end, he felt like my phone was being controlled and smashed, but I didn't do that at all. In the end, he said that from now on, he won't be able to contact her anymore without his phone.

A man relies on his phone for all his business contacts, but now he is doing so, which I think is very scary. What should I do?

Reply

Hello, on the issue of infidelity, a man is always a tough talking animal and will never admit it. Unless you catch him in bed, he will be a scoundrel to the end. In fact, a man does this to protect his face and to protect his marriage. When he doesn't admit his infidelity to you at all, you should understand that he just wants to play outside and doesn't want to lose his marriage. Therefore, as a wife, you need to calm down. Firstly, you need to reflect on the current marital situation, secondly, you need to think about how to respond, and thirdly, you need to consider the direction and consequences. In other words, what do you want to do in the face of such a situation? Think it through before doing it. Instead of having a blank brain and engaging in arguments, such relentless entanglement and stubbornness can only push your husband towards the other person's embrace.

So, once a smart wife discovers any clues that her husband may have an affair, it is best not to speak up, or insinuate, or quietly respond. For example, first think of her own way out, transfer her property if she has money and property, protect her interests, and if she has no money or job, she should quickly enrich herself, find a foothold, increase her skills, and prepare for the worst. If you are not willing to lose your marriage like this and still want to continue saving it, then don't make a scene in front of yourself. You can take the initiative to improve your marital relationship and correct your shortcomings in a timely manner. Secondly, accumulate enough evidence and hold it to beat your husband, making him willingly bow to you. If your relationship is pure and strong, and you cannot tolerate the betrayal of your marriage, then you can leave him with one grit of your teeth and leave him alone. What you want to do depends entirely on how you think, and the decision is still in your own hands.