My husband is addicted to the internet, and I found out that he and a female college student have a bedroom photo

My husband is addicted to the internet and meets and chats with female netizens. I dissuaded him countless times, but finally I found out that he went to open a room with a female college student for a bed photo. He admitted his mistakes and said he wanted to rectify his mistakes. He was a former soldier and said he had returned home after being discharged from the army, so he started again. Everything he had done before was put down, and he really knew he was wrong. I also decided to live for my nine year marriage and my children.

Recently, I found out that he had been to XX for two days. After I took him to the station, he called the woman. The next day, when he picked him up, he called the woman again. Less than a few days after the bed photo took place, as soon as he admitted his mistake to me, he went to contact her.

"Now that I found their phone records, he smashed his phone in a rage.". He also said that if I don't divorce him, I won't be able to live any longer. Hehe, a few days ago, I begged me not to leave him.

"I can't trust him anymore, but I have an 8-year-old daughter. I really can't bear to see the child. The child is sensitive when he is young. I asked my father if he doesn't want his mother anymore, and if he likes other women, doesn't he want me anymore?"?

I don't know how to tell the child, but for the sake of the child's life, I really don't know where the hope is? I don't know what else to do? Tell his parents that if you have evidence, you can do whatever you want, we can only persuade them! We can't handle it!

I'm desperate now. What should I do?

reply:

1. For a man who indulges in the internet and indulges in self indulgence, it is too difficult for him to completely extricate himself from his downfall. On the one hand, it requires a strong willpower of the self, and on the other hand, it requires you to make every effort regardless of the consequences and setbacks. At this time, resolutely confront him to the end, perhaps you have the possibility of winning. Of course, it can also lead to a losing marriage when you persist in struggling desperately with him. But there is no way. In such a situation, if you don't wrestle with him or endure marriage, it is you who will be hurt; Confronting him, and even getting divorced, resulted in a loss for both. To do this, you need to clarify your bottom line.

2. Perhaps it is precisely because you have repeatedly retreated from the bottom line in this marriage that your husband is so arrogant and constantly gaining ground. Because he knows where your weakness lies. "Because he knows that you won't easily choose to divorce him, he knows that you can't let go of your children, and he also knows that you may belong to the kind of military marriage, and he has a certain amount of initiative. All these things, so he takes you seriously, and he dares to throw his cell phone and scare you with a divorce.".

3. Although a woman plays the role of a weak person in marriage, in order to maintain her dignity, she cannot be willing to be a weak person. If she wants to turn herself around completely and win a minimum of respect in marriage, she must learn to constantly strive for self-improvement, adhere to her own bottom line, and cannot repeatedly tolerate humiliation and compromise in principle, or seek perfection through grievances. Otherwise, your position in marriage will only become increasingly humble.

4. "At any time, marriage is for two people, and one cannot rely on either party's domination. One should learn to safeguard one's own rights and interests.". Since it is impossible to believe him, there is no need to force yourself to believe him. You just need to believe that you can do well. Confidence is more important than trusting others. In marriage, don't kidnap your happiness because of your children. I don't think your children want to see their mother living in agony all day. Children are innocent, and for their sake, you must also learn to be strong and devote more energy to them. Many times, children need a tangible and warm home, rather than a form of marriage that exists in name only. If you really feel that this marriage cannot be supported, please don't force it on. Once you drag yourself down, you won't be able to take care of anything.