Post Date December, 02 2023
In 2010, we got married. One year later, we had our baby. After the baby was born, our relationship became tense. After six years of marriage, he became more and more concerned about money and became very irresponsible. My mother-in-law is not in good health and can't work hard. My father-in-law has not retired yet. The burden of taking care of the children falls on me alone. Before the child was two years old, my husband performed fairly well. He helped me cook and tease the child after work, which relieved me a lot of burden.
Since he resigned and changed his job, he has become lazy and particularly concerned about money. Every time I ask him for living expenses, he grumbles that I spend too fast and can't manage money. I'm no longer willing to help me cook and take care of my children. When I come back, I lie on the sofa watching TV and wait for dinner. I complained to him. He retorted that he had been working all day and was too tired to move. I took care of the children at home, and had so much trouble with him. The child interacted with him, and he did not respond. Everything should be centered on him.
Last week, the child was ill and had a high fever in the middle of the night. I took his temperature and shook the thermometer and fell to the ground, breaking it. I pulled up my sleeping husband and asked him to take the child to the hospital. He mumbled in a daze, taking some anti-fever medicine first and then going tomorrow. I was worried about the burning of the child, so I drove by myself. I just got my driver's license, and I was scared when driving on the road. Fortunately, there were no cars on the road at midnight. I hung up the emergency room for my child, and my husband dragged over the next morning. If he didn't use the car for work, I'm afraid he wouldn't bother to come and have a look.
I am completely disappointed with the child's illness this time. It doesn't matter how he treats me. The child is his own flesh and blood. He can sleep safely when the child is sick. I can't tolerate such an irresponsible man. After our quarrel, we have been sleeping in separate rooms. He refused to divorce me. What should I do now? Couples are strangers. What is the significance of such a marriage?
Reply from the consultant:
From your account, your husband is very immature and unclear about the priorities of the matter. He can't shoulder the responsibility. At the time of marriage, both of you had jobs and both of you had income. At that time, there was no financial burden. Now, with one more child and one less income, he can't bear it psychologically. You need to communicate with him to let him understand that husband is not an identity, but a responsibility. Your refusal to divorce means that he is not like a broken marriage. In this case, let him bear the responsibility of family.
