Post Date December, 03 2023
I was 23 years old that year and had just graduated from college. I was fortunate enough to work for his (later became my husband) company and work as a secretary for him.
You can find such a great job outside the campus and get personal guidance from your boss. In fact, he is only 7 years older than me, 30 years old. However, after joining his company, I realized that a man in his thirties can achieve this level of success in his career. Even if he is already very successful, he also appears to be quite humorous and practical. I always have a worship mentality towards him, thinking that he is so great.
When I was working for almost a month, one weekend evening, he proposed to invite me to his house for dinner, saying it was his birthday. I thought it was quite unexpected. He looked at me and felt a bit confused, so he said directly that there was no one else at home, only him, and asked me to accompany him on his birthday. He said he hasn't had a decent birthday for himself for many years, and has been busy with his career all these years. He doesn't even know what it feels like to have a birthday. His words made me sound a bit sour, feeling that the successful man in front of me was also very bitter, so I agreed to his invitation.
I went to his house and he had already asked the nanny to prepare a sumptuous meal, which I could tell was carefully prepared. That night, just him and me, I couldn't help but hesitate to ask some personal questions about him, but he was very proactive and candid. Originally, he had an ex-wife who had already divorced 6 years ago. He loved her very much, but at that time, he was still a poor scholar and everything had just begun.
Although he loves his ex-wife very much, she still went to the United States with her ex boyfriend from college. He said he didn't blame his ex wife, he only blamed himself for not giving her the happiness she wanted at that time. Over the years, he has been thinking about his ex-wife and the little things he once lived together. Although I have achieved success in my career now, I have been struggling to find a woman like my ex-wife, otherwise I would have gotten married early.
He said he recruited me into the company largely because I looked very similar to his ex-wife and had a similar temperament. He was slightly drunk that night and asked me if I had any intention of marrying him. He was afraid that I wouldn't agree, so he gave me a "preventive shot" and said that if he didn't feel good about him, it wouldn't matter. He could still stay at the company and work, and he wouldn't bring up this matter again. He asked me to think first and not rush to answer him. Maybe it was too sudden. I didn't have any psychological preparation. I didn't know how to face him at that time, but I felt sorry for the man in front of me.
Later on, I felt that he was getting better and better towards me, and in my heart, I felt quite sorry for him. Although he has had an ex-wife, he has been waiting for so many years, which indicates that he is still a man who values emotions. At least with this kind of man, he is not promiscuous and has a successful career. However, I also feel that all of this has come too quickly, and I have expectations in my heart. I also feel that I am not climbing high, and whether a happy life is too easy. But he later transferred a property to my name, which moved me very much. I believe he is sincere to me, and finally decided to give his life to this man.
A month ago, I finally married this man. The wedding was grand and I felt like I was the happiest woman in the world.
But when I got married, I felt an indescribable pain. He even suggested that I imitate his ex-wife, and he carefully prepared my pajamas for me. Although I was very unwilling, I still followed him and thought to myself, let him do it. Afterwards, he cried like a child, saying he was sorry for me and would definitely treat me well in the future.
Over the past month, I have sometimes slept with him, and he has also made such requests from time to time, which I have agreed to. I think perhaps over time, he will be able to find his true self. But I'm also afraid that he doesn't love me, it's still his ex-wife, and I'm afraid he'll really become a permanent double.
Reply:
Your husband is indeed a man who values emotions. He would rather be alone for 6 years than renew his marriage, because he still remembers his ex-wife who left him 6 years ago. Your appearance allowed him to find the figure of his ex-wife in you before he came to love you. These are just a threshold for you to enter his heart.
If he only loves you because he is nostalgic for his ex-wife and will not rise to a later marriage, then he may just find a lasting feeling and abandon it, but he is not. He takes his love for you seriously and elevates it to the level of marriage. Obviously, this is a carefully considered behavior. At least he is looking for a woman who is a bit similar to his ex-wife, and he has already been honest with you.
The reason why he occasionally behaves like his ex-wife after getting married may be a natural release of his deep emotions. I believe that over time, he will transform his love for his ex-wife into love for you in reality. In fact, from the moment he met you, he had already returned to reality and found his own happiness, so you don't have to worry too much.
