My husband and I were making out at night, and being seen by my son all the way made me feel overwhelmed

I have a very difficult thing to tell you. I am very confused now. Please help me. My husband and I have a 10 year old boy who lives in a relatively small house. How can I say that one night, I felt that he wasn't completely asleep, and my husband said he was asleep, and then the child saw us making out together.

The next morning, I sensed from my son's eyes and words that he seemed strange, and I felt that he must have seen me making out with my husband. From then on, I don't know how to face the child, don't know what to do? This matter has been going on for a long time, and I still feel at a loss. I feel particularly uncomfortable in my heart. I don't know what to do?

From then on, I also began to be particularly bored with my husband in my heart, unwilling to pay attention to him, and felt that he was very uncouth. "I even complained angrily about him and thought he was not a human being. That night, when I said my son wasn't asleep, he said he was.". I just feel like I have lost my image in my son's heart. I don't know if we will leave a very bad impression in his heart?

reply:

1. "It is true that couples should take into account the feelings of their children when making love and having sex, and it is best not to have a negative impact on them.". Therefore, it is necessary for couples to conduct necessary communication and communication on this issue in ordinary times, and try to avoid such embarrassing things.

2. Since your affairs have already been seen by the child, it is best to explain them to the child at the first time, telling him that intimacy between parents is the way for adults to love. This is nothing, and when you grow up, you will naturally understand. If this matter has been going on for a long time, then remedial measures can still be taken afterwards.

3. But now the most important thing is that you need to adjust your own mindset first. Perhaps the child's problem is not as serious as you think, and your own heart knot seems difficult to open. Personally, this is actually nothing to feel bad about. As a mother, you should not feel like you have done something terrible in front of your son, which can easily mislead your son. Your "adult game" seems very disgraceful and dirty, and it's really not that serious.

4. In addition, don't exasperate your husband. What's the use of complaining about him more at this time? "Because such a thing has affected the feelings between husband and wife, leaving a shadow in their hearts, and they even dare not make love with their husband in the future. Isn't that even more serious and more costly?". Be sure to adjust your mindset, face your child with a correct mindset, and give them a scientific explanation.

5. If you feel that your state cannot be adjusted accordingly, and you are always worried about the impact on your child's heart, and you really do not know how to explain to your child, then it is recommended that you take him to the psychological or adolescent clinic of the relevant hospital and invite a professional to help him with some counseling, which may have better results. In this way, it not only eliminates all your worries, but also allows your heart to be relieved.