My husband and female colleague did not repent under my connivance after having an affair

It has been 13 years since my husband and I first fell in love to get married and have children. Our relationship has always been very good, and we seldom quarrel. In the eyes of outsiders, we are a very happy couple. I also think so. But in the past two months, he and his female colleague have been together, and this female colleague is also my friend. The three of us often play and eat together. From recognition to now, it has been a year and a half since her relationship with my husband's lover lasted for 4 months. After I found out, my husband promised to stop having relationship with her and keep a distance from her. But my husband still didn't do it. I forgave him again and again. He still looked for opportunities to go out and open a house. He also came back to my home and was found by me once. What do you think I should do?

I have never made any trouble. He said that he would give him time to break the relationship when the third left the company, but the third has never left. I said divorce, let him have a relationship with the third, but he did not agree. He said he would not let me leave him, and said it would not be possible to have a result with the third. Should I divorce?

I have two children, the eldest daughter is 8 years old, and the youngest son is 3 years old. My mother-in-law knows that my mother and they don't know, and I haven't talked to the third child. What should I do next, teacher? thank you!

reply:

A man is an animal that thinks in the lower part of his body. It is easy to remember to eat or not to beat when it comes to cheating. Because you can easily forgive him, he is naturally easy to indulge himself. His real psychology is that since you found him, I promise in front of you that I will continue to indulge when you see that you are lax. This is a man's greed, and also a man's nature.

Men who cheat usually don't plan to divorce. They just crave comfort and novelty outside marriage, even stimulation. This is very helpless human nature. Since he doesn't plan to divorce and has no deeper thoughts on that woman, you don't need to be nervous for the time being. But in terms of attitude, you should not be too gentle. You should seriously warn him that you have your own bottom line and principles. If you don't converge, continue to touch, and the consequences will be his own.

You should take a decisive attitude and let him feel your seriousness, otherwise, he will not stop. Secondly, you can talk with this mistress. After all, you are familiar with each other. You can have a showdown with her. But don't make a noise, fight and scold. Show your magnanimity and grace by showing your wife's demeanor. Tell her that everyone is a woman. Why do women bother women? Are there any friends like this? Rabbits don't eat grass beside their nests. Is it worthwhile for you to hurt your friends and humiliate yourself by doing so, and end up earning a reputation? In addition, your mother-in-law already knows this matter, so let your mother-in-law come forward and teach your husband a lesson. This is her son. She should discipline her anyway.

Of course, while intimidating her husband and pacifying her mistress, she also needs to reflect on herself. Why she has no charm to attract her husband is really her own problem. She should correct herself in time. When dealing with men's infidelity, women should act according to their own bottom line and decide whether to divorce according to their existing conditions. Follow their own heart. If you want to divorce from your heart, you don't have to force yourself to be wronged. If you don't have the conditions for divorce and lack the courage to divorce, then don't force yourself. In any case, your final choice must be better than your current state. Otherwise, there is no need to make trouble.