My boyfriend's home is too poor. I want to break up. The eight years of love will soon end

My boyfriend and I began to fall in love in high school. It has been eight years now. High school is in the same class and university is in the same department. The relationship has always been good. We plan to get married after graduation and stable work. After graduation, I stayed in this city to find a job. My boyfriend suddenly wants to continue taking the postgraduate examination, which is out of our plan. Later, I learned that his mother paid attention to the postgraduate entrance examination. "Poor parents", I can understand. So I waited for him for a year, but he didn't pass the exam and wanted to give up. His mother disagreed. He tried to persuade his family to give up the postgraduate entrance exam. He wanted to settle down and buy a house to marry me. He didn't want me to wait.

We went to see the house. The location is very good and the traffic is very convenient. The down payment for the house is 180000 yuan. Before that, his parents promised me and my boyfriend that they would help us pay the down payment for the house. The mortgage and decoration depend on our own abilities. The boyfriend went back to ask his parents to take money, but his mother turned her back and gave us only 50000 yuan, so much money at home when we were poor, and the rest of the money would also give us a wedding. I was very angry at that time. I negotiated with my boyfriend to get married after graduation, but she stepped in and insisted that my boyfriend take the postgraduate examination. I compromised; Now we have agreed to help us pay the down payment when buying a house. Now we are crying for poverty. So when we look at the house, we should discuss their budget with us in advance.

My boyfriend is unstable in his job and a dutiful son. His mother has decided so, and he doesn't have much to say. But his father did not dare to make her angry, and his mother made the decision in this house. I don't have much money. I have to borrow money if I want to pay the down payment. I didn't want to embarrass my boyfriend and made up a lie to ask my parents to borrow money. The shrewd mother guessed my mind at a glance, and said to me without hesitation, "I don't want to pay down for a house. In the future, you will only get angry when you marry. If you don't, you will break up".

How can we break up for a down payment for a house? I am not reconciled. I walked out of my house full of grievances. Before I left, my father slipped me a bank card. He told me that the password was my birthday and there was 30000 yuan in it. He wouldn't let me tell my mother. There are still tens of thousands of pieces left. I asked my boyfriend to look for his parents again. If it's not serious, we should borrow it. My boyfriend was not willing to tell me the big deal. Let's rent a house first. I was silly. I tried so hard to raise money, and he said such discouraging words to me. From beginning to end, he only collected 20000 yuan!

I held my anger for several days and broke out. In my life, I don't want to be rich, but just want to have a safe and warm nest. Is it wrong? He became arrogant and said that I was a material woman. I also put down my harsh words and don't want to get married without a house. This is also the "order" my mother gave me. We each said our difficulties, and finally he said, "Good luck, find the person who can buy you a big house early, goodbye". He turned around and left. I didn't stop him in anger.

I really misread him. With such a small setback, he will break up with me. A week has passed, and the people who bought the house have been urging me to pay. I can't delay it any more, or I will sell it to others. What should we do now? With such a boyfriend, can our feelings be repaired?

Reply from the consultant:

Hello. One is that you have just worked for a year, and the other is that you have no job. When everything is not stable, you have to get married and buy a house. In this case, if there is a slight disturbance, the plan will fall through. The boyfriend's family is not willing to help you pay the down payment. Their purpose is to save some money for marriage. You should also understand that when you bought a house and got married, you didn't plan to work together. Now you can't support them financially.

I can see that your boyfriend is very filial to his parents and doesn't want to worry them, so he will put forward the idea of renting a house. With the implementation of this idea, my favorite house plan failed. At least this can slow down and plan again. After all, buying a house is not a small matter. Your mother, I believe you will persuade her. It would be a pity to give up eight years of love for such a down payment. It is recommended that you calm down and communicate well and strive for the best of both worlds.