Post Date December, 02 2023
My friend came crying and told me that her boyfriend had proposed to break up with her, citing the fact that she was far less attractive and talented than her junior. "I called in indignation and questioned Chen Shimei. He remained silent on the phone for a long time, saying, 'Why choose someone else? Just because it's comfortable to be with her.'"
A friend snorted disdainfully at the word "comfort." In her opinion, what comfort reminds her most quickly is the body and senses. "I suddenly realized something. When I broke up with the last man, he also threw out the word, and at that time, I only looked down on my own pity and denounced his fickleness, his lack of righteousness, his fondness for the new and his disgust for the old.". So I remembered a time when I participated in an activity and chatted with a man who was not confused about his age. Suddenly, he felt the various benefits of Guangdong women. Among them, they mentioned that their greatest advantage is "knowing the cold and the hot, and having no desires or desires," which is the most comfortable type of wife. I asked him what a truly comfortable woman is, is it to find a nanny who can take care of you and care about you, but ignore all your bad habits? "He said, 'This is the most foolish thing about what you call" understanding people. "Women who make people feel comfortable have both small intelligence and great wisdom. They can take care of his life like wives, talk to him like confidants, understand his needs like lovers, tolerate his mistakes like mothers, and ignore his weaknesses like intellectual disabilities... etc. Are you talking about a physical woman or the Virgin Mary?"? "He smiled and said, 'It's not difficult at all. Most women are born to play these roles, but they often arrange the right roles in the wrong situations.'". In fact, as long as men take their positions, they will feel "comfortable". Because of the "comfort" of a woman, men will only throw away their "constraints.". Silent men are willing to talk to them, indifferent men can cry loudly in front of them, and playful men will also be willing to go home because of such a harbor.
Even though his words were somewhat male chauvinistic, they also made me understand a lot of confusion. This is why we often see many handsome and golden good men surrounded by beautiful women who often change, while the ones who ultimately persist are often women with ordinary talents and features. Fashion magazines always teach us how to use tricks to manipulate men, but in fact, this trick is only applicable to the early stages of male and female chase games. When emotions enter a plateau, fanatical love tends to calm down, and a simple "comfortable" woman is often the ultimate belonging of a man. Some people are always studying whether people with complementary personalities or similar personalities are more suitable for being lovers. In fact, men and women are the relationship between keys and locks. Regardless of the material and core of both sides, as long as they have a "comfortable" contact point, diamonds and crystals can coexist peacefully, and wood and plastic can also collide with sparks.
When I first broke up, I made every phone call I tried to retrieve into a hundred forums. After my reasoning and argument were exhausted by quotations, and my words were exhausted, I always used the sentiment "Your words are still so much" at the end of the phone as the concluding remarks of my speech. Bubu said that because you are not people of a kingdom, no matter how much you say, he will never understand. Perhaps only when facing his own "comfortable" woman will he have the impulse to say something.
Yes, comfort and restraint are just a matter of letting go and letting go. If you were struggling to lock a man before you were 30, then after 30, it's better to learn to let go of a man.
(Intern Editor: Cai Junyi)
