My boyfriend can't stand the stimulation of his ex girlfriend's indecent photos and wants to break up with me

I got to know him through an online game at the end of October last year. After we got to know each other, we got to know each other and exchanged phone calls. In addition to the game, we also chatted like lovers. It's considered an online relationship, I'm 25 years old, and he's 21 years old. At first, I just regarded him as a playmate for games and didn't really want to be together. However, as time went on, I was deeply moved by his sincerity. He treated me well and spent a lot of time with me every day. I was a cold hearted person, but I was influenced by his passion. I decided to be with him well and not worry about whether there was a future. He is a sophomore student with no financial resources, always absent from school, and his family rarely provides him with pocket money. Therefore, after meeting him for a period of time, he ran out of money. I paid him once and bought him a lot of things in the game. It can be said that financially, I have always been paying for him. We met 6 times, all of which was spent by me. I bought him a mobile phone with the Chinese New Year bonus and a PAD for his birthday. He usually runs out of money and has called him many times.

Two months after meeting him, at the end of 2014, I met him and crossed the New Year together. I was in XX, and he was in XX. Due to economic reasons, I went to find him. After meeting him, we went out to play, watch movies, eat together, and there was no strange feeling, like a couple we had known for a long time. Later, before the Chinese New Year, I went to see him again. During the weekend, I took a 35 hour train ride back and forth. After arriving at XX, I went back to work and fell ill the next day after returning home. Because I work, he spends a lot more time playing games than me. Sometimes when I sleep, he also plays with other girls. Once, I found out that he was having an ambiguous conversation with a girl, so I broke up with him. He didn't agree, begged me, explained to me that he had known a friend for a long time, just joking, and promised that it wouldn't happen again in the future, so I forgave him. During the Chinese New Year, he returned to his hometown in XX. I remember it was New Year's Eve and he called me to say that he might not be able to continue with me. I thought it was something I did not do well, but I asked him what was wrong. He refused to tell me and insisted on breaking up with me. I asked him hard why. Finally, he told me that he learned about his ex girlfriend being with another man and saw photos of their relationship. He was stimulated, He hates me so much, so he feels like he can't be with me anymore. That Spring Festival, I spent it in tears. Later, I ignored him for many days, and he realized he was wrong. He said he didn't still love his ex girlfriend, but still wanted to be with me. After the New Year, he came to XX from XX to find me. After we met, our relationship recovered. At the end of May, due to our argument, he said he wanted to break up with me. I went to him once and found out that he was looking for another girl to be his girlfriend online. I was very sad, but later he knelt at the door after I fell asleep and begged for my forgiveness, so I forgave him. Later on, he became very impatient with me and found out that he was chatting with other girls on QQ, which I couldn't accept, so I broke up with him. Later on, I made up with him again, but I still had grudges in my heart. I was in pain, and he told me he really loved me and wouldn't give up on me easily. I was really tired, and I don't know how to leave him cruelly in this relationship. I don't know how to let go of it?

reply:

You got married by playing online games and started dating online, portraying a typical long-distance and sibling relationship. To be honest, this kind of relationship has extremely poor risk resistance. During this time, you accompany him on and off like a child, but in fact, you are not very mature yourself. He is a 21 year old student who has just entered his sophomore year and has a heavy sense of playfulness. You cannot afford to play with him, and it's really not suitable for you to be together. However, you are a very easy to deceive big sister. Every time he takes it easy, your heart will soften. I don't think he takes you too seriously. On the contrary, he is quite half hearted towards you. He not only focuses on online games, but also on the opposite sex besides you, such as his ex girlfriend, Other unfamiliar female netizens and others have no exclusive love for you, and the possibility of achieving success between you is actually very slim.

So, it's time for you to reflect on yourself. If you continue like this, you may only waste yourself. How much youth do you have left to waste. If a relationship makes people feel very tired, even physically and mentally exhausted, how should they enter a marriage in the future? This kind of love is obviously a burden, don't let it go. What is there that you cannot let go of, and what is there that you cannot leave? If you really want to leave him, you must first defeat yourself. You must reflect on whether you are too unrealistic and empty? You need to carefully organize your views on marriage and love. Loving someone is not based on tolerance and habits, but on having a common feeling with each other. The true feeling is mutual trust.

For this, if you really want to stay away from this unreliable relationship, you need to do the following: first, not actively contact him; 2、 When he continues to harass you or coax you into dating you, pretend to have no time; 3、 Shift your focus, focus on work, or spend more time with good friends.