Post Date December, 03 2023
Everyone has some untouchable positions in their hearts, which are commonly referred to as psychological forbidden areas. In fact, men who look careless on weekdays also have various psychological forbidden areas. Their inner world is almost the same as that of women. Their hearts are made of meat, and their psychology also has a very fragile side. What are the forbidden areas of male psychology? Pay attention to male mental health, you have to look, Let's understand the male psychological forbidden zone of male mental health.
Today was a "black weekend" for Xiao Hong. She was angry with her male colleagues in the office and had a fight with her husband when she came home from work. Xu Wen and Xiao Hong's husband in the office are classmates and friends, so Xiao Hong knows Xu Wen's background very well. In the morning, chatting in the office, my colleagues all praised Xu Wen for fully supporting his wife in her tour guide work, and taking on the heavy responsibilities of housework and educating children, making him a "model husband". While Xu Wen was cheering everyone up, Xiao Hong half jokingly said, "Is hitting a wife also a standard for a model husband? His wife came to my house to take refuge the other day!" When Xu Wen said this, everyone was very surprised. Xu Wen became angry and shouted, "Nonsense!" After that, he kept his face taut all day and didn't greet Xiao Hong when he met him.
"Xiaohongwo was filled with anger and went home and complained to her husband, 'They've all promoted Xu Wen to section chief, but what about you? Are you even more cowardly than him?'" Yes, I admit I'm a incompetent person, "the husband said slightly angrily. "You're just such a loser, you'll never prosper. Follow you, you coward, and I'll get a bad eye!" Xiao Hong said angrily.
"You're so unreasonable! You're so annoying..." The husband seemed very unbearable, patted the table and scolded Xiao Hong loudly. Xiao Hong was accused by two men in one day, not to mention anything else. The main reason was that she accidentally violated the men's psychological exclusion zone. From a psychological perspective, due to differences in physical, psychological, and social experiences, people often have a psychological forbidden zone deep within their hearts. Different people have different psychological forbidden areas and different levels of sensitivity. Although men are stronger than women, they also have a vulnerable side.
There are topics that they are most reluctant to talk about or mention. Women should understand some psychology, whether working with men at work or at home with their husbands, and understand men's psychological avoidance. This is an essential element for women's friendship, love, and even career success. If you step on a man's "minefield" by mistake, you will be as unpleasant as Xiao Hong today. The common sense of psychology tells us that men are often particularly sensitive to certain words related to their own evaluation, which can lead to disgust. For this reason, women must be very careful about the following topics about men to avoid embarrassing situations.
Don't ridicule him for being timid. Some men are timid, and sometimes they are scared out of their wits or cry bitterly. This secret of a man can be observed by a woman with her keen and careful eyes. But please don't laugh at him in person. If you expose this secret, he will hate you for damaging his masculine image.
Don't judge his appearance. Men rarely compliment their physical appearance, which is more due to lack of self-confidence than to shyness. If you praise his appearance, he will have a positive attitude towards his body, will have confidence, and will be more poised to participate in social activities. However, if your evaluation is not so favorable to him, it can cause him to have inferiority complex and even lead to strong anger, which cannot be underestimated in men.
Don't praise another man's achievements in front of him. Men are naturally competitive and never willing to concede defeat. Many men often envy another man's success. "If a person, especially a woman, appreciates another man's achievements in front of him, it can make him think he has been looked down upon, and you are deliberately demeaning him.".
Don't talk about his failure. For most men, not being considered a failure by others is already considered "success." Here, success is not measured by winning, but simply by "not failing.". The reason for being satisfied with "not failing" is because most men inwardly acknowledge that there are only a handful of truly successful people. Talking about his failure inevitably makes him angry at times.
Don't talk about his role in the family. Although he is very open-minded, gentle and considerate to his wife, and diligent in housework, men subconsciously believe that gentleness and housework undermine the dignity of a man.
Don't ridicule men's sexual incompetence. Among all the taboos men avoid, men's sexual incompetence (impotence, premature ejaculation, penis, etc.) is the biggest taboo. Once a man experiences any disturbance in his sexual function and hears gossip from others, even a strong man can become vulnerable. Produce uncontrollable sexual distress, confusion, and fear.
As mentioned earlier, a man is not actually a cold-blooded animal. Any verbal and behavioral stimuli can cause psychological trauma to him, and once the injury enters the bone marrow, it is difficult to heal. Do not easily step into the forbidden zone of male psychology. The problem of male mental health deserves everyone's attention.
