Post Date December, 02 2023
A story goes: When a seriously ill man is about to leave the world, he calls his wife and young lover to his own bed. Faced with a single lover who was sad and crying, he took out a withered yellow leaf and said, "This is the leaf that fell on your shoulder when we first met. I have always kept it as the most precious thing in my life. Now I give it to you as a witness of our love
Then, he took out another passbook and said to his first wife, "We've been arguing for a lifetime, and we don't have to argue anymore. Here's this passbook for you and live a good life with the children." See, this is the end of falling in love with a married man.
Can't this story still awaken those who fall in love with married men? Even if married men are always good, they are someone else's after all. Little white rabbits all understand this truth: only those who grow themselves have endless food. So why do you continue to pursue married men one after another.
From a psychological perspective, a woman falls in love with a man and wants to change him more than a man (while a man wants her to always maintain the way she was when she first met). If you accidentally fall in love with a married man, let alone the various pressures from the outside world, even if you haven't thought about entering the house, there will be a lot of emotional crisis alone. Women are afraid of the passage of time, while men rely on the polishing of time. How can you compete with the unbeaten peach blossoms around him after ten years of youth? It's not surprising to be replaced by a second MM when your appearance no longer looks good.
I know that even if you're not a good man, you won't be attracted to him, but most so-called "good men" have a virtuous wife who personally cultivates a good man behind their back. Your unrequited love with him can only be fleeting for a moment, temporarily satisfying your small vanity, and the final mess will have to be sorted out by yourself.
So MM who are in love should pay attention to breaking the illusion of getting something for nothing, wanting romance without cost, and quickly returning to reality. Love is something that can be met but not sought, and lilies never envy peonies. Only by learning to accept oneself and love oneself can one confidently love others. Love everything I have, not what I love. The lighter in your hand should be worth cherishing more than the stars in the sky!
(Intern Editor: Chen Hao)
