Post Date December, 02 2023
Case record
Honest husbands can cheat
In the psychosexual clinic, the foreign enterprise customer service can hardly believe what her husband has done for a period of time. He is an honest and loyal enterprise technical cadre. Before marriage, he had seven years of high school and college love experience with Africa. Everyone thought they were a couple who lived together for a long time. However, in the fifth year after marriage, the husband had a relationship with a female netizen five or six years younger than him. When Feifei found that the unmarried woman had sent her husband a lot of disgusting messages on her mobile phone, she resolutely proposed divorce. The husband wept bitterly, saying that he had no feelings for the woman, and that he only loved Fei and Fei from beginning to end. He betrayed only once physically, and emotionally, he could swear that he had never betrayed Fei.
Considering that his husband is a first offender, he still forgives him for cherishing the wrongs of his feelings for many years. But she soon found that her husband and the woman were still connected, and even cheated frequently, but she just didn't want to divorce Feifei. Feifei is deeply confused about this. What is the matter with this man? Does he already have an extramarital sexual dependence similar to drug addiction?
Expert assertion
Some cheating is a psychological barrier
The sexual psychology expert found that Feifei's husband had a certain sense of responsibility and morality in his consultation with Feifei. Before that, he had been very specific in his seven years of love and five years of marriage. The expert decided that his cheating was not his original intention, as he said, and there might be some psychological obstacles. After further consultation, the experts found that Feifei's husband was more introverted and excessively pursuing perfection, setting unrealistic standards for himself; At the same time, many people ask too much of themselves, but they often encounter various setbacks in work, which makes him feel great pain; When you are upset, you don't want to disturb your other half, so you can relieve the psychological disturbance in a wayward way. For a long time, the infidelity with other loveless women was regarded as a way to relieve pressure, which naturally caused psychological obstacles.
Professor Ma Xiaonian, chairman of the Professional Committee of Sexual Medicine of the Chinese Sexuality Society, pointed out that there are many "derailed men" with psychological disorders in their lives, and they should undergo detailed psychological and psychiatric examination, and conduct psychological and behavioral treatment if necessary.
Derailment analysis
Seize the embryonic stage of "ready to move"
Generally speaking, there are three kinds of men's infidelity: the first is mental infidelity, the second is physical infidelity, and the last is mental and physical infidelity. Psychologists believe that if it is the first and second situation, it can be forgiven. This man is also within the scope of salvation. After a cold war, the marriage will return to its original love. The last is not cheating, but betrayal. Once a man's infidelity comes to the end, the family will be dissolved one day.
Men's cheating is the same as "Rome wasn't built in a day". Men and women who are deeply in love cannot hold others in their eyes. Only when marriage makes a man feel dull and tired will his heart be "ready to move". Therefore, experts suggest that wives can completely eliminate the husband's "ready to move" heart in the bud.
A common situation in life is that many women attribute the reality of their husband's cheating to "he eats from the bowl and looks at the pot", "the wild women outside are really shameless", and so on, but they never realize that their husband's cheating has anything to do with themselves. If you put yourself in a position to think about your performance for a period of time, whether you are too "acting", too sloppy, not caring enough for your husband, making him feel new, and so on, and then make a thorough communication with your husband, I believe that you will catch him back to you.
Cut off derailment
There is no need to "wolf comes" all day
In life, many women closely monitor their mobile phone call records, text messages
MSN chat records, etc. In fact, once found by the husband, it is easy to lay a layer of frost on the already fragile feelings of two people. If it doesn't work well, the man's already wavering heart will be pushed into the arms of other women.
The expert's advice is that you should learn to be a smart wife. You don't have to be greedy for him at all. All day long, you look like a wolf. You can pay attention to the details of your life and how you get along with each other. You can see everything if he has a little "wind and grass". Of course, you also need to trust and tolerate your husband, pay attention to his emotional changes and psychological fluctuations while taking care of his work and life, and use women's understanding to defuse his unhappiness, so that he can get full vent and not give outsiders opportunities.
For men, no one is willing to deal with his wife haggardly, but also to break ties with women outside. In many cases, cheating is not what they are willing to do. Generally speaking, men tend to relax their psychological vigilance and face more temptations at key times such as promotion and wealth, business entertainment or disappointment. If you can firmly grasp the critical moment of easy derailment and keep your wife in your heart, you can also get twice the result with half the effort and protect a happy family. It is said that by holding the pass, the city will not be lost.
