Divorce is a seemingly common issue, but with the development of society, the divorce rate has soared. Some people believed that the old society was conservative and feudal, so they did not divorce. However, this is not the case. It is just that people's demand for happiness has increased, and their expectations for marriage have also increased relatively. When they cannot get what they want, divorce will occur.
Modern marriage is like "venture capital"
In modern society, marriage is no longer just about finding a life partner or sharing a "long-term meal ticket" with others. It is widely regarded as an "investment". Whoever you choose is an investment: whether you choose "original stock", "potential stock", or "peak stock", you need to take risks. In this investment, everyone has the right to make their own choices. Choice is the most important thing, and you have your own choice. You can choose whether to marry, who to marry, and when to marry.
Of course, this kind of initiative is not absolute, because people's choices are always influenced by one factor or another. Especially when encountering love or missing the best choice opportunity, sometimes the initiative will involuntarily be handed over to others or the authority will be released. However, in terms of "investment" results, only by selecting the right "investment target" and selecting the right "investment method" can the investment in marriage receive satisfactory or even surprising investment "benefits".
Marriage is an investment behavior that does not only yield benefits, but also pays a considerable "opportunity cost", so there should be no speculative psychology. Love is only a source of happiness, not happiness itself. The adjustment should be moderate and the investment should be reasonable. Only in this way can the happiness resources in marriage be transformed into real happiness. However, no matter how you choose, God will never make you perfect or completely despair. "We invest our emotions and other things in our partners, hoping that over time, we will receive more and more rewards.". At first, we may not trust the objects we invest in very much, but over the years, we will increasingly believe in our own vision.
There is no guaranteed "marriage investment"
It is impossible for anyone to invest in a stable income without losing. You can never find a perfect investment target. To a large extent, whether the investment is reasonable depends on your inner feelings.
Unlike general investment behavior, marriage is an investment that requires continuous investment. In other words, this kind of investment not only means that you need to choose the investment target, but also includes how much you invest. For most people, this input includes the responsibilities, obligations, and contributions of being a wife (husband) to the family and husband (wife). Generally speaking, the more investment, the greater the return, which should be taken for granted.
However, for different marriages, there are differences in the degree of investment. A marriage where both parties feel very difficult often means that our investment needs to be significant. "When there are problems with marriage, it is also an important time to increase the amount of investment.". Of course, some people don't want to invest anymore at this time, so they can only watch this marriage fail.
(Intern editor: Lai Jiaxing)