Post Date December, 02 2023
Liking someone is a simple and natural thing.
Many studies have shown that within about 7 seconds of contact with a person, one can determine their likes and dislikes.
Without too much rational analysis or judgment, take a look, listen, smell, smile or kiss, and the feeling comes. This is like, simple and without reason. It comes rapidly, leaving you feeling overwhelmed and at a loss.
There are many such bridges in real life that almost transcend rationality.
I think this is like. We can like many people, which is the foundation for us to love many people. It also has a name - palpitating.
Like and love are only one step away, it depends on whether you like to take this step or Stay in place. Love is a deep liking, as some people say. I said, liking may be unstable, it is ethereal and illusory, it is a subtle fragrance floating, we cannot find the foundation of liking, sometimes it is inexplicable.
Love is a decision, Erich Fromm once said. The determined liking, the confirmed liking, is love. Love is an understanding, and at this time, you will consciously or unconsciously find many reasons for your love, such as her stubbornness and pride; Her smile and thoughtfulness; Her confidence and sunshine. this is not the only one.
Decided likes develop into love. Love is something for you alone, you can ignore how she feels about you.
Generally speaking, people's feelings are similar. That means if you like someone, 90% of them may also like you, at least not dislike you. But it is very likely that she did not deeply like it, nor did she feel a sudden heartbeat, and she would not make that decision. This will not become another love, nor can it evolve into love.
Love is between two people. You must let her make a decision. If she doesn't like you, give up. If she also likes you, you should work hard. As for the result, I can tell you now: it's painful. This started when you made the decision, and you gave her the right to harm you.
In love, who moves first, who gets hurt first.
I don't know who is hoping that those in love will be together? Many girls even hope for eternity. The life of love is very short. Some people say a few seconds, some say a few days, and the longest saying is three months and 100 days. I naively believe in the latter.
I think the highest state of love is being together. Being physically and mentally integrated, watching the vicissitudes of life, the wind and clouds surging, and the flowers blooming and withering.
This is the art of love, the technology of making love safe. We all need to learn.
If we weren't together Then there will be no us, only me and my love.
