Sexual Health
Late at night, my husband called on his mobile phone, and I pretended to sleep and eavesdrop. He hid in the bathroom and shouted to his wife on the phone
"I don't know when my relationship with my husband has become increasingly strained, reaching a point where we all have to argue with each other.". After five years of marriage, I have already regarded him as my beloved and loved one. His indifferent attitude has chilled my heart to the core.
My husband and I were childhood sweethearts. His family is better than mine, and my parent-in-law is also a good friend of my parents. My husband and I have been playing together since childhood. He is one year older than me and has greater strength than me. When he was at school, whoever bullied me was the first to stand in front of him. "We developed from friendship to love, and the two elderly people were very happy that we were able to tie the knot. After graduating from college, they held a wedding for us.". After getting married, we moved into the new house our parents bought for us, opening up our happy life as a young couple.
After getting married, my husband and I gave birth to a precious daughter, who is very cute and I particularly like her. She really is' afraid of falling when held in the hand, afraid of melting when held in the mouth '. After giving birth to the baby, both of the elderly were willing to help us with it, but I didn't want the child to leave my parents. I refused the kindness of the two elderly people and occasionally took the child to visit them in my spare time. "Because of taking care of my baby full-time, I cannot work to make money, and the pressure to support my family falls on my husband alone.".
Although his family has good conditions, when he gets married, he is the backbone of his family, with a strong sense of self-esteem. Regardless of difficulties, he will not open his mouth to ask his parents for a penny. He belongs to the type of person who reports good news without worrying. While I was at home with my children, my husband thought of starting a business again. I originally thought he was brainstorming. His analysis made me very moved: "If you can't bring your children to work, let's do some business. This way, when you're not busy, you can take your baby with you and help me manage the store. You can be the boss yourself, and you don't have to look at the faces of others.".
I feel that it makes sense to compromise. When I got married, my mother gave me the bride price gift from their family, allowing me to freely distribute it, which could just help him. He chose to open a restaurant, and we made money in the first two years. In the next two years, with the rise of several nearby restaurants, we were robbed of a lot of business. Their innovative decoration and lower prices have attracted many people to dine. If we don't have regular customers here to support us, we will lose money every day. "I don't think the momentum is right, so I'll discuss with my husband not to do it anymore. I'll take it as soon as it's good and start looking for new business opportunities.".
"He didn't listen to me and thought I was a woman. He kept burning money inside, but he didn't get his money back. Finally, he went bankrupt.". I blame him and argue with him. He worries about being drunk all day and goes crazy when he comes home. Business is not going well, and our feelings are also tearing apart. Gradually, he snubbed me and didn't want to see me, not to mention the intimate sexual relationship between husband and wife. He came home in the middle of the night and never spoke to me, treating me as a transparent person.
That day, he didn't come back in the middle of the night, and his phone calls were never answered. It was already three o'clock when he came back. As soon as I entered the room, I smelled a whiff of alcohol. My anger lingered higher and higher, his footsteps getting closer to the bedroom, and my phone rang, so I quickly hung up. He leaned over to my face and looked at me. I pretended not to move while I was sleeping. After a while, his voice rang out in the bathroom.
The night was quiet, and his subtle voice was clearly audible as I approached it a little. "He shouted on the phone, 'Wife, I'm home. I'll make an appointment another day. Go to bed early.'". Aren't I here? Whose wife is he calling? When he came out of the bathroom, he was really startled and asked me why I was here. "I'll have a showdown. Who is the 'wife' on the phone?"? Without explaining, he closed the bathroom door and took a shower as if nothing had happened. I was so angry that I cried outside.
Now that business is down and income is cut, he still raises women outside. How embarrassing it would be for me to tell both parents about this matter. Now, whenever I ask him if he is cheating, he always pretends to be confused. How did he become like this? Not a husband I know at all. What use do I need him for this marriage that exists in name only?
reply:
You were childhood sweethearts and have a certain emotional foundation. After marriage, he was deeply troubled by disagreement over business management. Every quarrel will create a barrier between you, and the more you squeeze, the less loyal your marriage becomes. Those vows before marriage are all forgotten when arguing.
He couldn't find a sense of security at home, so he went back outside to seek comfort. One comes and two goes, unable to withstand the temptation, there is a betrayal of the family situation. "Now that you have heard him having an affair with someone else, you have not yet determined the truth or falsehood of the matter. Therefore, if you want to clarify the facts of the matter and set your bottom line, if he knows his mistake, you should discuss and measure it well."; "If you still look indifferent, you will immediately sever your friendship with him. Patience cannot solve the problem. Be strong and safeguard your rights and interests.".