Is the first sexual failure due to being too nervous? How to make your first night go smoothly

Marriage is a major event in life, and the lives of newlyweds are very beautiful memories. I think it is very important to have a very happy and harmonious sexual life on this day. I want to talk to my audience about how to live a first sexual life.

The first time may not necessarily be the most perfect or the most successful. The likelihood of encountering accidents, failures, and failures for the first time is high.

Especially from a male perspective, they have never been so stimulated in the past. When they were together, they hugged, kissed, and had contact in the past during their romantic phase, but had never encountered real sexual activity before. Therefore, for the first time, when a male excites both sides naked, he suddenly ejaculates when he sees her so beautiful and moving

When excited, fearful, or nervous, the penis cannot get an erection. In the past, when two people hugged together, the erection was good and lasted for a long time, but now the real sword is made with a real gun, and it can't be angry anymore.

Many people have had such experiences, such as going to the exam room for the first time, setting goals for the first time, driving for the first time, etc. Many of them are very nervous and excited for the first time. There may be two situations in the first sexual intercourse: firstly, ejaculation is extremely fast and immediately occurs; Secondly, there is no erection. For men, these two situations are common. But it's okay. This does not mean that you are sick.

For women, they should also have the same mindset and preparation. The first time may not necessarily be successful, and the proportion of unsuccessful situations is about 20%, which is a high proportion.

Some women get anxious when they encounter this situation and divorce on the same day. In fact, she didn't expect that the relationship between the two of them was already very deep, and they had been talking for one or two years or even a few years. I usually know this person very well, and even when hugging, I can feel their reaction. However, when I first encounter nudity, it suddenly changes and I cannot accept it. Of course, everyone hopes to be perfect for the first time.

The significance of the first sexual intercourse for women

Sexual activity is one of the intimate ways for couples. Therefore, for female friends, the first sexual encounter directly affects the direct life of the couple.

The significance of having a first sexual encounter is an important step in life for most people. Western sexual liberation, although sexual life is not related to marriage and childbirth, the first sexual intercourse is still very important for anyone. There is a relationship between sexual activity and sex hormones, which means that many of us, especially those in adolescence, engage in sexual activity driven by sex hormones. However, many of us engage in sexual activity because of the significance of emotions.

The first sexual encounter is often seen as a sign of maturity, a step in the transition from a girl to a girl, and a milestone in life. It can show your status among peers, be a means of retaliating against your parents, or be a reward for your loyal partner. In fact, we still believe that losing virginity is a way to have a close relationship with a partner. It is a symbol of love reaching its highest level.

Many women are mentally disappointed due to losing their virginity, and sexual life is more urgent than love. They do not feel like adult women, but they feel guilty. However, most women can continue to have happy sexual relationships - the key to establishing a happy sexual life is to reach a consensus with trusted partners.

Several reasons for the failure of the first sexual encounter

(1) Lack of preparation before sexual intercourse: Women's sexual response is slower than men's, and their nature is reserved and shy. Especially when the groom quickly or rudely reveals their sexual desire during the first contact with the male external genitalia. For example, before sexual intercourse, they should be prepared to arouse the bride's sexual desire, such as hugging, stroking, kissing, and other flirting actions. When the bride's sexual desire is aroused, sexual intercourse can obtain psychological and physiological satisfaction from both parties.

(2) Insufficient understanding of the bride's reproductive organs: The female vagina is a muscular elastic tube with good elasticity, why cannot the penis be inserted into the vagina? The tension of the vaginal orifice was originally affected by the hymen and the muscle ring of the vaginal orifice. The first sexual intercourse was accompanied by the insertion of the penis. The hymen was strange. The tension of the vaginal orifice contracted, making it difficult to insert the penis. As the number of sexual intercourse increases, the muscle ring expands and extends to varying degrees, which causes the vaginal opening to relax.

In addition, after women have sexual desire, the secretion of the vestibular gland in the external genitalia increases, the vaginal opening lubricates, and the congestion of the genitalia causes a large amount of fluid to seep out of the vagina. The cervix is lifted, 2/3 of the vagina is dilated, and the vaginal cavity is extended by 1/4. At this point, the penis helps to smoothly insert into the vagina. If you don't know these common sense, you are eager to have rough sex, the vagina is not swollen and dilated, there is no lubricant in the vaginal opening and inside the vagina, the penis is inserted into the vagina and remains, female pain intensifies tension, vaginal spasms, and sexual intercourse fails. Forcible insertion may also cause tearing or bleeding of the female perineum and vagina.

(3) Physical fatigue: Newly married couples often experience very tiring preparations before getting married, and also nervously welcome guests on the wedding day. At night, some friends were causing trouble in their new house. Therefore, the bride and groom are already exhausted and in a low or uneasy mental state. Without sexual knowledge, it is difficult to achieve harmony and happiness in sexual life.

(4) Malformations of reproductive organs: female genital abnormalities such as hymen atresia and vaginal septum can not make the penis insert into the vagina. At this time, it should go to the hospital for surgery.