Post Date December, 03 2023
Expression story I
Living in her house makes me feel insecure
During my college years, I fell in love with a Wuhan girl. After graduation, I chose to stay in Wuhan for love. My girlfriend is a very emotional person. She hopes to have a home, so that our love can be depended on. However, my hometown is in Henan, and my family is very poor. It is impossible to pay me to buy a house. I have only graduated for two years, and I don't have much savings. And marriage is a must to have a house, so I have a headache when my girlfriend mentioned marriage later.
At the beginning of last year, my girlfriend's parents said that they would help us buy a three-bedroom and one-hall house for our wedding. At first, I didn't agree because I didn't want to get married in the house her parents bought. I think it should be her own business to buy a house, not her parents.
In the end, I didn't beat my girlfriend. We got married in the house her parents bought. To tell the truth, the married life is still very sweet and happy. Her parents treat me very well and treat me as a son. However, the problem of the house has always been pressing in my heart, making me very insecure. I like making friends very much. When I used to rent a house, I often brought my friends home to watch football and talk about the World Cup. When I was happy, I shouted and drank beer, but now I dare not, because my wife's parents like quiet.
I am a dutiful son. It is sad that I want my parents to come and live in a small house, but it is difficult to speak to my wife. The key is that I'm afraid that my parents will feel uncomfortable living in my wife's house when they come. Another point is that her parents live with us, and my parents are here. If she or her parents make my parents suffer injustice, I can't stand it.
Therefore, in order to make myself live safely and let my parents come and live in a small house in the future, I strive to earn money and firmly want to buy a house. I think that only when I live in the house I bought, can I feel very secure.
Expression story II
It's hard for me to live in her house
Although my parents and I were born and bred in Wuhan, we never had a house of our own. First we lived in the house of the enterprise, then the enterprise closed down and the house was demolished, and we didn't have much compensation. So we have been renting in the house of others for several years.
She is the kind of girl I met when I was at work. I like her very much. After we knew each other for more than a year, she proposed to get married. In fact, I always have this idea in my heart, but the real problem is that there is no house, so our family has no place to attach. Because I don't have a house and my family is poor, the idea of marriage was seriously opposed by her parents, but she decided not to marry me.
She said we should not elope? I don't want to elope with her, nor do I want to leave my parents. Besides, Wuhan has our business after all. Finally, her parents saw her very determined and had to agree to our marriage. Seeing that we were going to rent a house to get married, her parents were very distressed and helped us buy a two-room and one-room apartment.
I don't want to live in the house bought by her parents, but I can't help it for marriage. Another point is that if I buy a house and marry again according to my ability, I'm afraid I will have to wait for decades. She didn't say anything when she lived in the house her parents bought. She still loved me very much and tried to be a virtuous wife. But her mother sometimes came to "inspire" me, saying that a man has to raise his wife, work hard to make money, buy a house, and let his wife live a carefree life. Sometimes that tone really makes me uncomfortable.
In fact, I dream of buying my own house.
Expression story III
In her house, I am a good husband
My wife and I are college classmates. She was very capable when she was at school and was a cadre of the Youth League Committee of the university. After taking up her job, she still has outstanding ability, and soon became a department manager of a well-known enterprise. Her salary is several times higher than mine. The house we live in now was bought with her money.
Living in the house she bought, I didn't feel uncomfortable. She never felt how she felt because the house was hers. In terms of making money, she didn't dictate to me because she contributed a lot to the family. We are absolutely equal. In fact, when two lovers are together, if we think too clearly and divide too clearly, it will be meaningless. Our relationship in the family is absolutely equal. In addition, I usually make up my mind about things at home, and discuss with each other when meeting major issues. Because of her work, she has to travel frequently. The decoration of her home is often according to my preference. So she loves this home very much, and I have special feelings. I never think who bought this house!
Although we have a good relationship and her ability is outstanding, I am still very diligent. I can't be lazy because my wife's ability is outstanding. My wife estimates that I am a "potential stock", who is very considerate and caring for me, and work with me to create a stable and warm family atmosphere.
So I think there is no essential difference between living in a woman's house and living in a man's house. The key problem is that they should live happily.
(Intern editor: Cai Junyi)
