Don't trust men's rhetoric too much. The key to examining a man is to see his sense of responsibility and practical actions. If a man is gentle with you and whispers softly that he loves you? Perhaps he's just talking! Men's hearts are sometimes harder to guess than women's. Let's take a look at the 10 behaviors of men that are out of sync. If your man has the following behaviors, perhaps you really need to pay attention. A good girl's time cannot withstand men's waste!
1. When a boy praises you for being beautiful and gentle, sometimes it's just because of politeness and grace, and it doesn't mean he says it to you because he has a good impression of you.
2. It is also a gentlemanly demeanor for a man to take the initiative to pay the bill during a date, but it does not mean that he is willing to date you again.
3. He engaged in intimate behavior with you, perhaps only adrenaline played a role, but this does not mean that your relationship goes deeper, nor does it mean that he feels responsible for you from now on.
4. His obedience to you can only indicate his good temper, and you haven't touched his bottom line. But it doesn't mean he recognizes and can always tolerate your bad temper.
5. Just because he is on call and willing to help you clean up the mess doesn't mean he loves you very much and never changes. Sometimes a man's sense of responsibility is just to show that he is a pure man and willing to help you solve problems, but it does not mean love.
6. He has been dating you for many years, but it doesn't mean he really wants to marry you. Maybe he's just too lazy to change this way of life.
7. Just because he says he will contact you again when he has time after the date doesn't mean he will really contact you again, so don't take it for granted and wait on the phone. Perhaps he evaporated from this mortal world.
8. He keeps saying he loves you, but it doesn't mean he really regards you as the only one he wants to be with you for the rest of his life.
9. Just because he gave you a warm hug when you were sad doesn't mean he started treating you like his girlfriend. Friends can also be comforted and embraced.
10. He says he doesn't care about your figure and thinks you're chubby and cute, which doesn't mean he can really tolerate your weight loss. Maybe he's a hot chick fan. Anyway, you're not his girlfriend. How much meat do you have on your body, what's the matter with him?
Mismatch of words is a common concern among many people.
Men often complain that women are not speaking the right way and are only talking ironically, hoping that the other party will automatically guess their intentions. This is considered a manifestation of understanding, caring, and loving them. Women often complain that men don't have the right words and say they only love her, but they have countless women's bodies in their minds. Parents always say in front of their children not to spend filial piety, having a heart is enough, and when their children really don't do anything, they complain and feel sorry for themselves.
Mismatch of words is common in love and among family members. On the surface, there is one set, but in reality, there is another set of expectations. Actually, everyone hopes that others can read their own hearts, their intentions are self-evident, and they are ashamed to express themselves and reveal their demands. Everyone wants to appear not greedy, indifferent, and conceal their hidden desires. Isn't it very hard to get along with close people in this way?
But everyone still prefers to speak out, because speaking out is harder than lying, and everyone is afraid of being seen through and wants to protect themselves. There are three forms of verbal confusion:
? One is for self-protection, not wanting to reveal one's own thoughts, and being afraid of others seeing through one's desires.
? The second is to take care of the other party and not speak the truth out of kindness, fearing that the other party may take trouble for themselves. Originally, it may have been out of kindness, but often evolves into obstructing frank communication and creating larger and unnecessary misunderstandings. This form often occurs between loving mothers or couples.
? The third is to be mindful, speak sarcastically on the surface, show friendliness and kindness, and even show consideration for others, showing generosity and indifference. However, the underlying lines inside are clearly the opposite, and to be calculating or have already made negative judgments about things towards others. Although he was unhappy in his heart, he said he had nothing to worry about. He wanted flattery, but he said he didn't mind.
However, due to being generous and generous, I feel more at a loss and less angry, feeling like a victim. Being a good person is not rewarded and not valued. This kind of hypocrisy is easy to accumulate resentment, self control grievances, self pity, secretly lament fate, and form narrow-minded. A resentful woman usually has symptoms of a heart wrenching mouth to heart, which makes it difficult to get along with, makes people feel at a loss, and is extremely stressful.
Speaking out of sync is a convenient way to hide oneself, which can easily be seen through by those who have a clear heart and expose themselves to ugliness. Don't underestimate the destructive effects of being out of sync on mental health, as it suppresses one's true thoughts, desires, and intentions. Due to the inability to release oneself, it leads to psychological depression, long-term depression becomes illness, and accumulates into resentment, jealousy, anger, depression, or other negative emotions. When exposed or unable to suppress, and when emotions rebound, it is more likely to become angry, lose control, erupt, become hysterical, and self harm others.
Expressing oneself is an important part of balancing psychology. People who can express themselves sincerely and freely are open-minded, less depressed, and approachable. Honesty is the most free and comfortable way of expression, don't let your heart disease make you hypocritical and annoying.