Post Date December, 03 2023
When you choose a unique marriage, don't expect everything to be naturally smooth.
Teller/27 year old designer of Tong Yao female
She fell in love with a divorced man, who was ten years older than her and had children. Driven by love, they got married. She endured a lot, and he gradually became accustomed to the sacrifices she made for this choice, and also became less concerned about her feelings. She gradually regretted it, she said, choosing him was because she didn't see it clearly in the beginning
Marrying a Divorced Man for Love
I had a fight with Li Zihan a few days ago.
I cried and said, 'I'm blind. I should have listened to my mother and left you, you bastard... Like all the similar romantic scenes in movies, TV dramas, and novels, Li Zihan slammed the door and left.'. I cried even more bitterly. In this city, I had a fight and didn't even have anyone to persuade me. My mother's family is in Shandong. My close sisters and friends are getting further away from me because I married a man 15 years older than myself.
Of course, I brought it all on my own. In my junior year, the school and the company held a fashion design competition together. My work won first prize. A few days later, I received a phone call from Li Zihan, who said he was the vice president of that company and appreciated my design skills. He wanted to ask me out for a chat.
I said I'm a poor student who doesn't understand anything and has nothing to talk about. He said he'll pick me up in a car and arrive in 20 minutes.
I don't know where he got my phone number. His unquestionable tone was domineering and masculine.
I went out for dinner with Li Zihan and watched a movie. He said some sweet words to me, and I was deeply attracted by him.
At that time, I was too childish. After meeting for two or three months, Li Zihan asked me to marry him after graduation. He said that with my talent and his abilities, we could start our own studio in the future. At that time, with continuous financial resources, we couldn't stop it. I said, so you're here to find a business partner. He said of course he was looking for a wife.
However, others are not optimistic about us. When Li Zihan and I got into a duet, my friends began to argue and oppose. Some people say that I have a liking for his money, while others say that I have become his person because of necessity. I ignore these people, and I say to them, 'You are really vulgar, I am driven by love.'.
Shadow has been shrouding since before marriage
Of course I know that Li Zihan got divorced and he has a son, but I don't think these are any problems. We are two adults who are responsible for our choices.
Shadow actually starts from the preparation period for marriage. Once, I said in Li Zihan's arms, 'When are we going to book a banquet?'? Li Zihan said, 'We don't serve alcohol.'. Our custom here is not to have a second marriage without alcohol. We get married quietly or go on a trip. Getting married is something for two people anyway... "My heart sank, but I still agreed. Later on, he said he wouldn't buy new furniture or exchange for new appliances, and I agreed. The only thing he satisfied me with was the wedding ring. It's not that he doesn't have money, but that he doesn't want to specifically exchange for a new set for me. He said, 'Is it still new at home? Why can't it be used?'? If you want to change, it only means that you are very concerned about my past. What else can I say? The road is my own choice.
Ex-wife harassment, marriage on the brink of collapse
But there are some things that I can't just grit my teeth to get over. For example, this time our argument was because his ex-wife kept calling and saying she knew she was wrong and was willing to change. If he agrees to remarry, she is willing to give him 500000... Of course his ex-wife knows his phone number, why did she call home? It is clearly a provocation.
That day, I finally said angrily, Li Zihan, tell your former wife not to call again. Li Zihan said, 'How could that be possible? She is the mother of the child. Can she care about her son?'? Isn't it okay to complain while caring about children?
Then we started arguing
I've been arguing a lot and I feel very tired. Is there any room for relaxation between us? Is it possible for us to reconcile as before in the future?
Note: When you choose to be different
He has already had a relationship with another woman, you are a virgin; He was married before, had children, and had a lot of social relationships that came with it, but you didn't.
He is ten to twenty years older than you, and he has experienced everything you haven't experienced before. His vicissitudes have become a negative factor in your heart.
When you choose a unique path of marriage and love, you can only persevere, constantly bless and pray, hoping that this is not a momentary passion. You should think that one day, you may not be able to bear it, you will shout, how can you live this day?
When you choose a unique marriage, don't expect everything to be naturally smooth. Don't expect your lover to change for your appearance, let alone expect your love to dissipate the people and things he has experienced in the past. You are just an ordinary woman, not a magical princess. Don't have a naive wait for marriage life.
You don't have to wronged yourself, endure it repeatedly, and hope that he will understand your heartache and think for you. You must express your thoughts while you are still calm. You must speak out your needs while you are calm and he can still fulfill them one by one.
This is common in normal marriages and relationships. Don't forget these things just because you have chosen a unique path. Actually, it's just that simple. By doing the most ordinary things well, you can restore some of the most authentic things. So, your unique brilliance will not be covered in dust.
