Post Date December, 02 2023
Scientific research has found that the nerve endings above the hymen are not rich, and hymen rupture itself will not cause obvious pain. However, since ancient times, people have had a psychological assumption that there will be pain on the first night, which is why women define the feeling of fullness and friction of the vaginal mucosa as pain, which has led to many tragedies of female sexual fear. Everyone's comments are diverse, and coupled with the prominent issues in clinical cases, I would like to clarify my viewpoint on this issue and hope to provide answers and clarification for everyone.
First of all, let's give an interesting example: people have generally accepted that the first night is not red, that is, many people know that hymen is a film, which is easy to break during intense exercise, and many things happen unconsciously. In other words, it has been proven that when this membrane ruptures, it does not cause pain, at least it does not cause obvious pain. Otherwise, how could women not be aware of it? But why do people accept that there is no bleeding at first night, but do not accept the idea that hymen rupture will not hurt?
The reason is very simple. People's word of mouth often says that it hurts the first time, and media such as literature, film, and television promote the pain of the first night. They associate this feeling with the innocence of girls so closely that they have already developed a sense in people's minds that the meaning of first sex is distorted, and pain is something that women must overcome in this ritual. Women are destined to suffer and suffer, So women should at least be cautious about their first night just to be afraid of pain. If this man doesn't want you anymore, you will have no pain! I paid for nothing! In this situation, no woman believes that the first night will not hurt, and the more innocent a woman is, the more painful it is. This shows how much you love your partner and how noble a spirit of sacrifice you have sacrificed yourself to him. Because women are unable to 100% prevent the phenomenon of first night redness, they can only use first night pain as evidence. In this way, the concept of "pain must be felt in the vagina during the first sexual life" is unconsciously strengthened, which has almost become a collective unconscious, which makes men and women no doubt. Men will cherish the dedication of women, and women will demand their loyalty as a result.
This concept must have its rationality, as it is a classic product of patriarchal cultural hegemony. Too many women are afraid of the action of inserting their penis into the vagina due to this so-called pain, and even feel very scared when they think of it. They will not be able to have normal marital sex for many years after marriage. This has led to public opinion of infertility, tragic divorce, and a sense of guilt towards their husbands, causing them long-term psychological pressure and a series of psychological and/or physiological problems, such as anxiety, depression, gynecological inflammation, autoimmune diseases, skin diseases, etc. Therefore, in order to eliminate this misconception, it is necessary to fundamentally liberate women's sexual rights, allowing them to enjoy equal rights with men and respect each other. This way, women will not feel overwhelmed, sacrificed, or bullied due to voluntary sexual activity. At the same time, the explanation of hymen must be in place in sex education.
The hymen is a natural physiological barrier of the vagina, which can play a role in protecting the vaginal environment of young girls. However, this protective effect is not important as rupture does not increase the risk of vaginal infection. Therefore, hymen is actually a trace left in the process of genetic evolution. Many people are born with hymen. With the growth and development, the membrane is slowly stretched out, and many holes appear. Some of the holes fuse with each other and become large holes, allowing menstrual blood to pass through. When the holes are large, hymen is almost invisible.
Finally, let me explain why the vast majority of women say 'it hurts a lot the first time'. In a natural state, the anterior and posterior walls of the vagina fit well. When a foreign object is inserted into the vagina for the first time, the vaginal mucosa receives unprecedented fresh stimulation, and our brain must recognize this new sense of touch. If we recognize this new feeling as a touch, a feeling of being propped up, or a feeling of fullness, it will not cause us to have a fearful emotional response; If we have a preset in our minds that pain is inevitable on the first night, then this new feeling will naturally be recognized as a sense of pain, causing us to fear and fear, because everyone is afraid of pain; If we have a positive expectation of sex, then we will recognize this feeling as a strong sexual stimulus or sensation, which will make us sexually excited. This is something that can be explained with the knowledge of general psychology. It is not mysterious.
In summary, whether analyzed from a psychological or sociological perspective, the concept of pain on the first night is untenable. This is something that constrains women's normal sexual life and enjoyment of sexual pleasure. Women should change their unscientific sexual attitudes based on their scientific mastery of sexual knowledge, break free from their fear of first night and enjoy sexual pleasure as soon as possible.
(Intern Editor: Chen Hao)
