Post Date December, 03 2023
Q:
Teacher, after reading many articles on the platform, they are talking about how men cheat, but I want to say that this situation is not so absolute, and there are also women cheat, right?
I suspect my wife has an affair. Two years ago, my wife and I met each other on a blind date, and we got married shortly after the date. My wife is a salesman and often needs to travel. She spends less time at home. At the beginning, it was OK. Every time she came home from a business trip, she was also very close to me. But later, she became more and more indifferent. She was also unhappy when I went home. She seldom paid attention to me when I called her and sent her text messages, or she just made some routine perfunctory remarks. Finally, she didn't want to sleep with me in the same bed. Every time she comes home, she goes back to her mother's house directly.
Because we are all dutiful people, we don't want to make the old man sad because of our own affairs. So in front of the old man, we behaved normally, but only when I was alone with her, she treated me like an enemy, either ignored or cynical, and always clamoured for divorce.
Once I grabbed her mobile phone and found that she was in frequent contact with a male friend. Is she having an affair? I don't know what to do now. She won't listen to me. When I refused to divorce, she said it would be such a waste.
A:
Long-term separation between two places will have a negative impact on marriage and feelings. Lack of communication will easily lead to misunderstandings and cool feelings. You'd better talk to her when she is calm and listen to her real thoughts. Since she wants to divorce, you should ask her to tell her why she wants to divorce.
From the perspective of your marriage situation, your emotional foundation before marriage is also very weak, and there is not much time to cultivate feelings together after marriage, so feelings are inevitably cold. In addition, you should also think about what you do to make her uneasy, and whether you don't care enough about her? If your family is just a small reunion for you or her when she comes back from a business trip, it is just a separate meeting when she doesn't meet at ordinary times, and the brief meeting when she comes back from a business trip only makes you satisfied but makes her dissatisfied, the problem is very serious.
