I fall in love with a man 17 years older than me. What if my mother doesn't agree with him because he is old and ugly

I fell in love with a man 17 years older than me, who was also unmarried. We have been together for more than two years. We love each other and intend to marry. But my family disagreed, saying that he was old and had no money! Ugly! But this is not the case. He has good economic conditions. There are many problems I need your help!!

But I am the only child in my family. My mother is not in good health. My mother is ill for this. She was afraid that I would be good with him and would not let me contact him. My heart was afraid that we would not get together eventually, which would be very painful for me. I will feel my life is over! Without him, there would be no meaning, so I'm afraid that they will not agree eventually. Because my mother hates him so much now. My mother said that I was blind and found such an ugly old man. She said that I looked bigger than my father. In my opinion, they just want me to find something similar, because they don't read many books and have a high level of education. They have been instilling me with their ideas at that time. He said that buying a house in my city, even if we can get together in the future, the house is mine. My father belongs to the kind who doesn't talk much. Most of the decisions are made by my mother. They don't understand the situation. They always think he has no money and is poor! In fact, his condition is quite good, but there is a problem in his career, and he has gone back to solve it, and it will be good soon! I'm afraid of losing him, I'm afraid! I'm afraid I can't marry him. It's meaningless, you know? I have made the worst plan. I can't marry him at that stage. My family will find me a man to marry. I am not happy and will divorce one day. Whether I had children or not at that time. Because I am not happy, I will not be happy to do anything. What's the meaning of living like that!!

reply:

Although this is an era of advocating freedom of love, as a young person, we can't talk about love without considering the advice of our family. After all, our parents are from the past, and they are better than us in both experience and insight. At the same time, they are also good for us and responsible for us. There must be differences between the young people's concept of spouse selection and the old people's concept. When the conflict is irreconcilable, as a younger generation, you should know how to compromise and compromise. You can stick to your point of view, and you also have your own choice, but don't fight with the old people, and negotiate with the old people politely.

If you think the boyfriend you choose is excellent and not as one-sided as the old man thinks, then you can let your boyfriend prove it to her with practical actions. You can promise your mother with a measure of delay first. When she is in a good mood, you can find a chance to show the excellent side of your boyfriend to the old man and slowly let her identify with him.

At the same time, you should also pay attention to the opposition of your mother and understand this man well. After all, he is so much older than you. Whether you can really fit in at all levels still needs to be further adjusted and adjusted. Don't entrust yourself to a man too early and have the idea of not marrying him.

Of course, if you have gone through all kinds of tests and are congenial to each other, then you need to be a little patient and try to do your parents' work slowly. If your boyfriend is good enough, one day, the elderly will see and agree. After all, every mother doesn't want to see whether her daughter is unhappy or not.