I accidentally caught my husband hugging my new lover, so I tried to suppress my anger and when I got home, he voluntarily requested a divorce

My husband is very humorous, with a height of 1.76 meters, and he is very handsome. I first met him and we work in the same company. I don't like to talk, sitting in a small corner is very inconspicuous. The female colleagues in the company like to chat and joke with him, and can use the form of "women's friends" to identify with him, which is very feminine. I admit that I have a liking for him. At the age of 25, due to reserve, I have not had a boyfriend for a long time, and this time I am no exception. When I see someone I like, I still remain silent.

The company sent us together to meet a client on an overseas assignment, and I had the opportunity to get in close contact with him. Due to nervousness, my words were incoherent. He even laughed at me when he saw my blush, which made me feel even more ashamed. After the work was over, it was almost nine o'clock, and I politely said 'goodbye' to him before heading towards the subway entrance. Before he reached the subway entrance, he turned his car around and said it was so late that a girl was not safe to go home and insisted on seeing me off. I said no, but my heart was filled with joy. Along the way, he had a lively conversation with me, and I let go of the girl's reserve and had a great conversation with him.

Afterwards, we became familiar with him, and after meeting him, my personality became much more outgoing, actively approaching others, and my circle of friends also expanded. After spending a few months together, he actually proposed to me, and I was flattered. He said that my sincerity and kindness moved him, and he only felt the joy of life when he was with me. The romantic confession moved my heart. I accepted him and, with the blessings of my family and friends, held a wedding.

Love and marriage are indeed not the same thing, the romance of love is no match for the blandness of marriage. In my first year of marriage, I gave birth to a baby. Due to the slow recovery of my body, I was unable to return to work at the company after giving birth. I voluntarily resigned from my job and wanted to wait for my baby to return to work when he was older. He had no objections and said that he was a man who should raise me and my child. I was very moved. With children, my time is not limited to my husband, but more is spent on the children. However, the crisis of marriage is rushing towards me, but I am completely unaware.

A few months ago, he started coming home late, and almost every time he got home, he smelled of wine mixed with an indescribable aroma. I still recite to myself in my mouth, as if calling someone's name. When he woke up, he asked him again, but he casually told me that I had heard wrong. I trust him and never thought he would cheat. But heaven wants to expose him, no one can stop him.

That day, I took my child to the mall for shopping, and when the child entered the mall, he clapped his hands happily. When I was admiring my clothes, the child pulled at me and reached out his little hand, saying, "Is that Dad? I followed the child's hand and confirmed that it was my husband, but next to him stood a sexy woman: low bra, miniskirt, boots. My husband half hugged her waist and occasionally rubbed her face. I was shocked because the child was present. I suppressed my anger and didn't expose him. I took a photo with my phone, and I explained to the child that he was wrong and took the child home.

Around eight o'clock, my husband went home. The moment he opened the door, my heart trembled slightly. I showed him the photos taken on my phone and asked if he had cheated. He held the photo with a gloomy expression and instead asked me if I was following him, diverting my conversation. I held back my anger for a day and finally broke out, arguing with him, tearing him apart, crying, disappointed, and venting all my emotions.

After calming down, he confessed to his infidelity and even proposed a divorce. He said he had no feelings for me anymore and didn't want to deceive me. Instead of not loving him, it's better to get together and break up. I'm confused. Although I hate him, divorce is not within my consideration. He is now in a cold war with me, making it seem like I made a mistake. May I ask what I should do now?

Reply from Weiqing Consultant:

Hello. From your narration, it can be seen that the relationship between you and your husband has changed since the birth of the child. In general, when a couple has children, a lot of time is spent on them, and the relationship with their husband gradually fades. Over time, their hearts will linger outside and even forget their responsibilities in the family.

A man who made a mistake, but broke the rules and had no hope for marriage. His behavior of abandoning his wife is shameful. You don't want a divorce, let alone the family falling apart. Face up to your marriage, have a good conversation with your husband, and convey the interests of extramarital affairs to him. I hope you can awaken his conscience and reunite with him. I wish you good luck.