Husband and wife in a different place, husband supporting his wife for five years, wife unknown

Q:

My husband and I did not have a wedding. On the night of obtaining the certificate, we briefly invited a table of guests, but both families did not show up. Several friends gathered at a table to send blessings. He got drunk and went back feeling very embarrassed. My husband's liquor quality is not good, which is what I learned from that day.

The only thing I didn't expect was that not only did he have poor liquor quality, but his character was also unqualified. Although simple, there is still a form at best, and I have never felt happier than others. At that time, we were tight with money and didn't have the willingness to put aside our savings to do big things in order to support his career. He has always promised to provide me with a romantic wedding in the future, and he will not disappoint me.

I believe it.

So I can't believe it now, he actually takes care of female students. At this age, I don't know that the junior is so righteous, but I didn't expect that my husband would make such a play of Chen Shimei for me.

He has been busy with his career, how busy is he? Even the time to go home all year round, accumulated by hours, does not exceed ten days.

My business is mainly located in Guangzhou, a city over a thousand kilometers away from our home. It's impossible for me to let go of my work in the past (I have an iron rice bowl, it's not realistic to change cities). He has been telling me that he will gradually transfer his business to our city and end this kind of remote life. After all these years of marriage, I never doubted him.

But how did he do it? Behind my back, I was supporting a female college student in Guangzhou. Now that the female student has graduated, I work with him. Others think they are a couple, and there are almost no public relations there. There are few people who know the inside story. There is a kind-hearted person who cannot bear his behavior of abandoning his wife. He revealed the truth to me, and I know how long I have been deceived!

I don't know if it's because he gave birth to a daughter. He always gave money to our mother and daughter, but he lied about being busy with emotional care. The person who told me the news told me that the female student has been with him for five years and wants to have a child to stabilize her status. I am both cold hearted and anxious. What should I do in this situation?

Answer:

Many things can be seen before they happen. Whether the wedding is a secondary event, but the lack of blessings from both families is enough to illustrate the issue. You just choose to turn a blind eye.

Marriage has never been guaranteed to be peaceful for a lifetime with just a marriage certificate, and the responsibility lies in one's heart. Changing one's mind breeds lies and deceit. What's even more dangerous is that you don't understand your husband's needs or even his current lifestyle habits because you don't live together.

At present, it can be confirmed that if a third party can not only meet the emotional needs of the husband, but also be helpful to him in his career, it is extremely unfavorable for you. It is not yet certain how he will decide the fate of your marital relationship, but in any case, to maintain your marriage, you need to be more attentive from this moment on.

When couples live together, don't be careless and let yourself become an indispensable presence in each other's lives, becoming a "decoration".