Post Date December, 02 2023
Would you talk to your car like a girl? Or will your boyfriend? Or do you always feel as if nature is consciously talking to you often when you stand in front of the mountains and forests? How strong is this belief in your mind? Each of us more or less views inanimate objects in the eyes of others as objects that can be talked to. Some things are like images of life, but they may be made of cloth, so you think you can talk to them, but some things just don't look like creatures, but you still build relationships and have a relationship of interdependence with them.
Variety shows always like to laugh at crazy men and treat the cars they buy as if they were girlfriends. They describe car washing as an act of love and caring, and they may spend far more time washing their cars than cleaning their bodies. We often regard this as a joke, which makes us feel ridiculous in our hearts, but it is inevitable that everyone takes care of something beyond the way they treat people, talks, and even feels that they have feelings and a sense of loyalty to themselves.
This may be called anthropomorphic beliefs. Like most people's personalities, there are also degrees. Some people are particularly prone to having emotions similar to those of humans with objects, but some people do not. Some people prefer to describe objects using human characteristics, while others do not. People who like to use anthropomorphic beliefs may say that their objects are "loyal," "cute," "obedient," and so on, even if they are so lifeless in the eyes of others that they simply don't mean anything.
Since being like a person can have feelings
Yes, since we treat certain things as adults, we tend to have feelings for them. That is not the so-called love of objects, but rather a kind of dependence similar to that of people. When we have them, there will be a sense of security and freedom. When we separate, we must experience the pain of separation as if we were separated from others.
When it comes to psychology, we like to use the concept of "attachment", which comes from Dr. Harlow's early research on monkeys. To put it simply, we are born with some kind of connection with people who mainly care for ourselves. This connection varies in quality depending on the way we interact. Some people are more anxious and unstable when dealing with caregivers, while others are more comfortable and safe when dealing with caregivers.
However, the spirit of the concept of "attachment" mainly aims to explain that the establishment of relationships comes from the early stages of life, and many subsequent theories have developed so-called interpersonal differences in coping styles, known as "attachment" styles, which also continue to have more or less impact at various stages of our lives.
"Attachment" can be divided into two broad categories, one is so-called "safe attachment", and the other is so-called "unsafe attachment". People with safe attachment will say, 'I can always easily approach someone, and when I get along, I can also be very comfortable, and I won't have too much worry, or fear what I will lose or suffer because of getting along.' ". However, "unsafe attachment" can be subdivided into more types, including anxiety attachment and avoidance attachment.
People who are anxious about attachment often feel that when they are with others, they will worry about the other half in their hearts, imagine that they are not loved, feel particularly uneasy when separated and lost, and are therefore afraid of separation.
People who avoid attachment tend to be less likely to have intimate relationships with others, as it is different from anxious personal relationships that cause anxiety when they occur. People who avoid relationships use actions to avoid the possible disadvantages of getting along. They have difficulty trusting others and are afraid to get too close to others.
"You can also have some emotional attachment to your phone because it's like someone's extension."
Therefore, when people get along with each other, there will be a certain state of attachment, and when we treat our mobile phones as something similar to people in our lives, we will also have a certain state of attachment to them. On the surface, this is a state of dependence on a mobile phone, but in fact, the state of a mobile phone is more complex. Because too many interpersonal interactions nowadays are completed through a mobile phone, and the mobile phone is also a channel for communication and coexistence, the state of attachment to a certain person may also extend to the mobile phone through anthropomorphic thinking, just as the mobile phone is also a tool for the other party to speak.
Interestingly, psychologists ponder over these two psychological concepts and wonder whether our attachment to mobile phones is also related to human attachment. If you are a secure attachment person, how will you treat your phone? If you are an anxious attachment person, how will you treat your phone. This may explain why we are so anxious about mobile phones, or why some people can easily disconnect from them.
Psychologist Bodford believes that people who have anxiety attachments to mobile phones are indeed more likely to personify them as the only conduit for interpersonal interaction, or as imaginary agents. This type of anxious attachment to a mobile phone has a feeling of anxiety about wanting to obtain a response or answer, and such people are often anxious about their interpersonal interactions. They are more likely to imagine in their minds that the other person's failure to respond to messages or emails is due to some bad factor, and because they are prone to anxiety about the response status, they often want to check their mobile phone and see the messages and information in it.
In fact, this relationship may be two-way. When you have this kind of addictive anxiety about mobile phones, you always want to respond to messages in the first place, or see replies from others. Therefore, you are anxious to keep checking your phone and sliding it. In fact, it may be because you are also in this state when dealing with people. You are afraid of separation, and you also want to approach people, but you cannot get along comfortably when approaching, You will have a feeling of imagination and unease that relationships will not go well.
Therefore, it should be said that when you are always anxious about using your mobile phone, you will be very anxious when you don't have one, and you will also be very anxious when others don't return. You are always sliding your phone, passing messages, and exploring possible new developments in others, which may reflect the way you actually talk about emotions in daily life. You treat your phone as an adult, a certain part of an adult, so you have anxiety and anxiety about it, Because you are such a person who is anxious about getting along with others, you will regard your mobile phone as an object that can make you feel uneasy.
