Post Date December, 03 2023
·In the family, communication refers to conveying the meaning to the other party. Therefore, no matter whether it is verbal or non-verbal, intentional or unintentional, as long as the meaning is understood by the other party, both parties have communication.
The new life order brought about by marriage is completely different from the pre-marriage love period, while the new marriage period is a transitional adaptation period. Therefore, during the new marriage period, we should deal with and adapt to our family life after marriage from the following aspects.
1. Deal with the relationship between yourself and your family
After marriage, as a daughter-in-law, she should fulfill relevant responsibilities and take care of her parents-in-law as her own parents. However, if you are dissatisfied with something, you'd better consult with your husband first and then decide how to solve it.
Newlyweds who live with their parents should pay more attention to the relationship with their families and the distribution of housework. They should be prepared. There may be many behaviors that you think are unacceptable to your parents-in-law, and they can't change. It is better to accept optimistically than to make a fool of themselves.
The newlywed life can be divided into three stages: after the honeymoon lasts for three months, the helplessness period follows. Life has entered the normal track, but it has not been able to adapt to this new life. I feel at a loss for some things in the new life and can't find a solution; Finally, there is a stable period. The arrival of the stable period varies from person to person. By this time, you have become accustomed to each other and their families, and begin to have a sense of belonging.
2. We should gradually adapt to the living habits of our family
Because both men and women grow up in different families, they must have different living habits, some of which may conflict with each other and exclude each other, which will only be found in the married life. In case your partner really makes you feel dissatisfied with your life habits, don't ask him to change them immediately. It takes a long time and determination to give up the inherent habits, and it can't be obtained by force. In the long future, help each other!
3. Properly handle domestic and financial affairs
Generally, marriage will bring a new life order, and the sharing of housework and financial treatment are different from those in love. Women are generally enthusiastic about housework, and can allocate the housework that men are easy to do to them, such as taking out garbage, washing dishes, etc. If the economy permits, it is the best policy to hire full-time or hourly nannies, because people are often tired after work, and it is easy to shirk responsibility for each other after getting married for a long time, which will become the fuse of disputes between husband and wife.
Married men and women often miss the scene of making money and spending their own money before marriage. They complain that once they get married and have a family, the money will be given to their parents for household use, and their partners often monitor their own spending, resulting in great psychological pressure. Therefore, we should properly deal with these problems.
4. Properly handle physiological problems
Modern youth are more open, premarital sex is common, and contraceptive knowledge is richer than that of the previous generation. However, for some couples who have sex again after marriage, they should start to consider contraceptive plans 3 to 4 months before marriage.
5. Solve family problems through effective communication
There are always various contradictions in the family life after marriage, which is a common fact. At the same time, because of the fast-paced modern life, more and more people are trapped in the distress of survival, and they are unwilling to speak more when they return home, which leads to a lack of communication between them. A family without communication is no less than a pool of stagnant water, and there is a terrible crisis. Therefore, it is also important for us to discuss the communication between husband and wife.
In the family, communication refers to conveying the meaning to the other party. Therefore, no matter whether it is verbal or non-verbal, intentional or unintentional, as long as the meaning is understood by the other party, both parties have communication. Please remember that the relationship is often damaged by daily trivial matters. Please don't build up a mountain of sand and a disease of resentment.
In addition, after marriage, both husband and wife should tolerate each other's shortcomings, so that they can live happily.
