How to solve marital conflicts after marriage? To avoid these mistakes in a happy marriage

What are the common conflicts between couples? We all know that marital life is a very important part of our family life, and often only when there is harmony between spouses can a family be harmonious. But there are still frequent conflicts between couples, so what should be done when there are conflicts between couples? Below, the editor will take a look at common conflicts between couples and give you a happy marriage!

What are the contradictions in marriage?

1. Money Hurts Husband and Wife's Emotions the Most

Case: Xiaoli's biggest dissatisfaction with her husband is that anyone who borrows money from him agrees without asking about the "return date". After buying the house, the two of them only had 7000 yuan left in their bankbooks, and their husband also proposed to lend money to others. His reason is that he bought a pending house and is not in a hurry to use the money now. Xiaoli doesn't understand why her husband doesn't have a sense of family!

Money is the most likely trigger for family conflicts. After getting married, women, because they are in charge of all household expenses, will require men to pay their monthly wages in full, leaving only an appropriate amount of money for their husband's pocket money. But from a man's perspective, why should one's own salary be distributed by others? Don't you have any special use for yourself?

Faced with money, there is a certain group difference between men and women themselves. Men often have the advantage of being generous in their actions, dedicating themselves to their careers, taking responsibility for their families, and valuing their brotherhood. They do not care about lending money to others or when they can recover it; Women are more required to be diligent and frugal in their household, with a delicate mindset, so they generally value money more than men.

Conflicts caused by money often stem from insufficient communication. Before Xiaoli's husband lends the money, he should first discuss with her and clearly state that there will definitely be savings for buying furniture in two years. This is like giving his wife a "reassurance" and making her feel that "the husband not only cares about the small family, but also has long-term plans for the small family". In addition, it is important to clearly agree when the money can be retrieved, and it is best to write a loan receipt.

2. Men become lazy and become accustomed to it

Common Contradictions between Couples

Case: Before marriage, Xiao Zhang's husband was still a hardworking person who often took the initiative to pack and carry heavy things. After getting married, Xiao Zhang found that her husband was getting lazier and lazier, even reaching the point where he didn't even give a helping hand when the soy sauce bottle fell. Sometimes if he is urged to work, the husband will give some examples of what he has done before, or say, "Let it go, it will happen sooner or later. Xiao Zhang inquired with his friend and found that there were quite a few husbands with this problem.

Many women may wonder why a newlywed husband is very hardworking, but over time, he becomes a lazy person? In fact, this is also related to social norms. In traditional Chinese culture, men tend to develop a misconception that 'wives are responsible for household chores as a matter of course'.

Men feel that doing household chores is a petty task and will be looked down upon by their friends and relatives around them. After returning home, if you don't work yourself and watch your wife work, you have a great sense of achievement, so husbands often become lazier and lazier after getting married.

A lazy husband and a hardworking wife are inseparable. To be precise, the more capable a wife is, the lazier her husband will be. Nowadays, some professional women perform exceptionally well in the workplace, even occupying positions as senior managers, while their husbands have not achieved such success. This also causes some husbands to develop a sense of inferiority and shift to real life, inevitably unwilling to do household chores.