Post Date December, 02 2023
After all that entanglement, I still divorced my husband.
The reason is simply that my husband abandoned me and my child for the sake of his lover.
Now, I rely on each other with my son. The thought of my ex husband ruining my life like this made me very resentful in my heart. Although I tell myself to be optimistic, I just can't balance my mind and sometimes even vent my anger on my children. Once he is mischievous, he will be very angry and even beat the child, but in fact, after beating, he will feel very heartbroken and regretful in his heart. How can I get through this painful period?
Ms. Song:
The result of resentment is that life never improves. Your negative emotions not only harm yourself, but also affect the growth of your child. If one's own condition and the child's condition get worse, the resentment in one's heart becomes more severe. At this time, it is necessary to rationally step out of the vicious cycle. At the beginning, it may be difficult, but you must be clear that living is for yourself, and the harm of others is not a reason for self abandonment. Moreover, you have children and a mother's responsibility.
Starting from now on, take care of your own life. Only by living well can you mitigate your own harm. Divorce, regardless of the reason, is a good thing for both parties, as long as the relationship between them has indeed broken down and the marriage is indeed in name only. Don't pay too much attention to others' evaluations of yourself. You can share your pain, troubles, and disappointments with close friends, or seek the help of a marriage counselor. The advice of others can help you overcome the shadow. When you are in a bad mood, you need to seek a reasonable and good way to vent your dissatisfaction, so that your suppressed emotions can be released, rather than venting on your child. You can also actively participate in sports and entertainment activities that are beneficial for physical and mental health. Through these activities, not only can you improve your brain's ability to handle setbacks, but you can also exercise your will, cultivate your character, forget all setbacks and troubles, and cultivate your own life style.
Learn to give up and forget, don't always hold onto it. Be tolerant and magnanimous towards your ex husband, not always full of hostility, and strive to forget the painful past. Self respect, self-reliance, self-love, and self-improvement, lift the sails of life again, and set a positive and upward example for children. Mothers are the best teachers for children.
