Post Date December, 02 2023
When I used to fall in love, I thought heart rate was very important, but now as I get older and get married, I have seen many cases of love and marriage. On the contrary, I think that heart rate's lifespan is very short, and whether two people are suitable and able to live together is the key to having a happy love.
Of course, it's not that heart rate doesn't matter. Having feelings, likes, and love for someone is an important condition for being together. However, if you place too much emphasis on heart movements, sometimes you may be harmed by your own misjudgment or misunderstanding. Because you may only be the one who is in the mood.
Moreover, you may place too much emphasis on love at first sight and appearance association, and feel a thrilling sensation at first sight, while placing too much emphasis on appearance leads to a lack of observation of various aspects of a person. Even, you completely refuse to give opportunities to those who didn't make you fall in love at first.
I often encounter many single girls who say they really want to find a partner, but when asked what type of person they like, many of them just look at their feelings. Unfortunately, the person they have feelings for is usually not a good thing.
There are also many girls who really want to have a stable social relationship and want to get married. They always get into trouble with people and are always with boys who don't want to settle with her. Some female friends are also willing to waste time waiting for someone who doesn't love them enough, even though they know their partner is terrible and they don't want to hear it (they have given up treatment).
We often wonder what's wrong with these beautiful and intelligent girls. If there are some high-quality boys around them who are relatively unattractive, not handsome enough, and not good at speaking (but are definitely more suitable for being good boyfriends or husbands than the ones they like), they disdain them because they have no feelings or emotions, so they do not give those other boys a chance at all.
Some girls will envy me and say that I have a happy marriage. I have found a good husband who cares for my family, loves my wife, doesn't like playing, and has a sense of responsibility. I smile and say, 'Boys like my husband, when they are in front of you, you won't even take a glance.'. Because he is not the standard handsome or handsome man in your eyes, dull and not humorous, he looks very simple and ordinary.
Some people pursue beautiful diamonds and colorful gemstones (which may also be fake), and after seeing them too much, they will not appreciate those stones and rough jade. However, when looking for a partner, it is important to understand not to be confused by their appearance, but to appreciate a person's character and inner texture. Otherwise, back to real life, what do you have to rely on to sustain your relationship?
Pursuing the thrill of being together for decades is the management of emotions. The long-term happiness of two people together depends not only on their emotions, but also on the actions of managing and maintaining their relationships. You give each other, support each other, and live together in the ups and downs of life, ordinary and ordinary. Such emotions are cultivated with heart.
But when looking for a partner, especially if you want to find a stable partner, you often consider those easily tempted, confused, confused, and momentarily dizzy emotions as secret signals of true love.
I believe we all have the experience of ghosts covering our eyes. Sometimes, without knowing why, we are attracted to the wrong person and discover that they are wrong, but without knowing why, we cannot live a painful and self abusive life without them. Or, if you know he is not good, but he just has the appearance or figure you like... or he is very good at telling lies to calm you, so that every time you want to wake up, you are moved again, and have been unable to walk out of the Hallucii.
I have heard of a girl friend who has always been obsessed with her ex boyfriend, just because they have strong sexual abilities. So she has been treated as a boyfriend by the other party, but she unilaterally thinks he is a boyfriend. There are also male friends who are obsessed with their girlfriend's beauty, so even if the girl treats him poorly and never acknowledges him, only treating him as a driver's slave, he is still willing to be her underground lover.
Some people always encounter a boyfriend who beats or bullies her every time they fall in love. Friends can't even persuade them to leave, and asking her why she loves her can't tell. Finally, her friend's observation found that she always likes guys with a bit of bad vibe, especially handsome guys. She feels that being with such guys is the only way to have a heart wrenching feeling. Even though her love idol drama has turned into a love martial arts film.
In fact, nowadays people place too much emphasis on appearance, so external conditions need to reach a certain level to make them feel tempted. However, real life is not an idol drama. Many people always say that they cannot find a partner, but in fact, as long as the other person's appearance is not good enough, they will directly give up the opportunity to continue to know him. Alternatively, if too high standards are set for mate selection criteria, as long as the other party fails to meet one of the criteria, they will not want to get to know each other more.
That is to say, they will not give opportunities to those who did not initially impress him or meet his standards.
I have a friend who is working on a dating website, and he said that in fact, it's even more important to get to know people who were no longer restricted by you at the beginning. Many good relationships come this way. Many people end up dating and marrying someone who is different from what they initially intended. He said that happiness should not give oneself so many limitations and restrictions. On the contrary, those who try to give themselves more opportunities are more likely to encounter unexpected true love.
You go ask those who are happy and happy in love and marriage, are there many partners they choose in the end that are not their original dishes, but they get even happier emotions than they think?
More importantly, it's not just about pursuing your heart's desire, but someone who is willing to take action for you. They don't talk casually, don't make empty promises, don't use fancy words, and are responsible for what they say. The person who is willing to express love, protect, and take care of you through actions, and the one who makes you move with steadfast actions, is the one who is worth your heart pounding for a lifetime. Instead of always pursuing emotions, it's better to give more opportunities to those who are willing to take action for you.
