Post Date December, 03 2023
Nowadays, marriage counseling and family therapy account for a large proportion of psychological counseling. On the positive side, this is a very good thing. People begin to pay attention to their marriage and family from the spirit. On the side, we can find that the proportion of marriage counseling and family therapy is so high, almost more than half of the number of psychological counseling, because we are too impatient and too concerned about material life, Over time, there are more and more conflicts between two people's marriage and three people's (or four or five or more) family, which can not be alleviated by themselves, and can only turn to professionals.
So let's talk about marriage and family first. How can we resolve the contradiction between day and night? In fact, it is very simple, as long as you know how to operate. Yes, if any relationship is to last for a long time, it needs to be managed with each other's heart. Like doing business, it needs to have certain skills to make this relationship better and better.
First of all, the way to operate is to learn to listen to each other.
In real life, many people can't do this basically. They either have no patience to listen or completely misunderstand the meaning of the other party. The simplest and most common examples are: children make mistakes. As parents, they often yell at their children, but ignore to listen to their explanations. Over time, the child will inevitably develop more rebellious or inferiority complex in his growth, When this happens to your children, how can the family talk about harmony? Another example is that married couples have nagging wives. Husbands tend to be irritable. As soon as wives speak, husbands often say, "Are you bored or not?" In the long run, how can such marriages continue? So, in order to manage the relationship well, it is very important to listen carefully to the other party's words - listen to the child's own explanation before criticism; Before getting angry, listen to the feelings your wife wants to express.
Secondly, express "love" regularly.
Since it is marriage and family management, there is no way to love, so we can express our love regularly. We can simply say "I love you" to our spouse or children at many times, such as festivals, before going to bed every night, after waking up every day, and so on.
Moreover, give each other some private space.
It must be that many people now know how important private space is. Without private space, the overlap space between them is bound to be a mess. In real life, it is more difficult for a full-time mother to raise a child than a working mother to raise a child, because when you put all your heart and soul on the child, it will make the child feel more stressed. At this time, the child will often get sick Especially clingy to others to refuse you to do so. In marriage relationships, similarly, many people are used to checking their partner's communication records, or always inquiring about each other's travel. Over time, how can such a marriage continue, so it is very important to grow up well, create a third space for themselves in marriage, and also give each other appropriate private space.
