Post Date December, 02 2023
When a man is truly mature, he must have experienced a decent failure, an unforgettable lovelorn, a difficult and painful choice, and a thrilling adventure. If you look at it from a distance, consider divorce as a "field survival training"!
1. Be grateful
She once swore to be with you for life and committed herself to you. What kind of love is it!
In addition, from the perspective of probability, there are tens of thousands of marriage partners a person can choose, but it is difficult to meet the one who is really suitable for you. The "she" who is more suitable for you must still be waiting for you somewhere. The previous one's departure not only makes you accumulate important experience, but also gives you another chance to choose again. In any sense, you should be grateful.
2. Free from commitment
Divorce is sure to cause harm, but it must also be a turning point.
Although we may know in our analysis that the passive person may suffer more harm, we should also know in the adjustment after divorce that the biggest challenge is not to fall into the mire of who has suffered the deepest harm, but to perceive and face the harm and hope, and regard divorce as a stage of growth.
At the beginning, we made promises to each other and allowed each other to become a part of our lives. Now we divorce, we feel as if we have lost a part of ourselves. But the exact thing is that we should lose this part and liberate ourselves from the original commitment, rather than be fettered by it.
3. Active healing
It is generally believed that "time is the only thing that can wash away all emotional distress, except tears. The longer the time goes by, the more the conflict is talked about, as if it were diluted tea." Although time is a good medicine, how do you spend the pain of healing this time?
Emergency suggestion 1: create happiness with the same content that brings you pain, and neutralize the pain. We should start a new love long march as soon as possible, actively participate in social activities, pay attention to the beautiful pictures around us, and go all out to prepare for a grand love at any time.
Emergency suggestion 2: The more difficult it is, the more you should not indulge in smoking, alcohol, hemp and internet, otherwise you will develop bad habits, downgrade yourself, and cause greater failure.
Emergency suggestion 3: reshape yourself purposefully, make a new work plan or life goal for yourself, and make sure to announce it in public.
For example, to develop a new project within the year, to climb the five famous mountains, to win a popular qualification certificate, and so on, and to make a public commitment, we will go all out. When men are too busy for their career, emotional problems will automatically fall to the second place. When you enjoy the infinite scenery at the peak of success, you will feel how naive it is to be infatuated with the stream at the foot of the mountain!
4. Receive professional guidance
Divorce is a major event in life. The blow and injury make the parties yearn for someone to understand their emotions.
In particular, male friends like Zhang Wei, although seemingly strong and maintain a false face, need professional help to clarify their inner suffering. In addition, when there is a lack of friends around who can understand and listen, the professional guidance of a psychologist can provide strong support.
(Intern editor: Cai Junyi)
