Post Date November, 17 2024
When their men are tempted, a woman's first thought is to prevent them from developing! The boyfriend who once swore to you began to turn his gaze towards another woman. Reasonably, we can admit that this is normal and in line with human nature; Emotionally accepting it requires a lot of effort. How many channels can this anger be vented?
Violent uniforms
Dany is 32 years old this year and has a calm and steady personality. However, when she realizes that her boyfriend is captivated by other women, she cannot control herself to use violence to solve problems. That night, we came to the busiest bar in Shanghai with our friends. On the dance floor, my boyfriend was attracted by a girl who was wearing a dress adorned with metal plates, like a dusty woman who stirred a man's heart. And her boyfriend seems to appreciate her very much, occasionally looking in her direction. Later, the girl sat at our table and her boyfriend started talking loudly, trying to attract her attention. The girl also smiled sweetly and joked, completely ignoring my existence.
Looking at everything that happened in front of me, I trembled with anger. I suddenly stood up, walked over to the girl, grabbed her hair, pulled her aside, and pushed her out more than two meters. I can no longer control myself, and I don't know where I came from with so much strength. The people sitting there were stunned, and my boyfriend froze completely. When he woke up, he picked up his coat and pulled me out to rush. Next, the big scenes that couples often perform on the streets: arguments, threats, remorse, and reconciliation.
Analysis: Generally speaking, men have a more obvious tendency towards violence. When they are jealous, their first thought is to use violence to solve problems. Although women instinctively think the same way, few people actually do it. Because many women believe that violence is not their strength, and these behaviors can make men embarrassed and disgusted, making them afraid. But intense actions can clearly convey a message to men: you have hurt me! Men at this time are not reckless. Just like accidentally stepping on a kitten's foot, it will scream and startle you. If it doesn't scream, you don't know it hurts. Of course, women should also restrain their behavior. Under intense anger, people will disregard the consequences and even lead to more serious consequences.
Laugh last, laugh best
If his betrayal has become a fact, the best way to relieve his anger before leaving him is to taunt him severely.
Liz said, 'I know my boyfriend has had an affair, and he has been secretly dating another woman for a long time.'. From the first day I learned of his betrayal, I was completely disappointed with him, and all I had to do was choose when to leave him. I pretended to know nothing and didn't say a word. That night, he used an excuse to work overtime and didn't come home. I went downstairs to the woman's residence and calmly walked up to knock on the door. After a while, the woman came out and opened the door. When she saw me, she was surprised and covered her mouth. I pushed her away and walked straight to the bedroom inside. My boyfriend was in bed and saw me coming, his face twisted with panic. I looked at him coldly and then walked away without saying a word. After coming out, I felt relieved. It's really addictive. I used my unique method to retaliate against him.
Liz used a tit for tat approach to change her mindset: her boyfriend's betrayal made her feel insulted, while she taunted her unfaithful boyfriend and his lover in her own way.
Analysis: Silence is often the most advantageous and effective weapon. Although she took a step back, she silently asked a question that made men feel stunned: Are you worthy to be with me? Furthermore, Alice's retaliatory approach caused her boyfriend and his lover to be deeply ridiculed. Seeing their disheveled appearance is the best treatment for a wounded soul.
Let fate decide
Amy, 29 years old, works in Beijing and her boyfriend is David, based in Shanghai. They are very in love. They took turns visiting each other until one day, she felt that her boyfriend had a problem.
I talked to David once, and he said his heart was disturbed by that girl. He didn't know how to make a choice and hoped that I would give him time. I am in great pain, but after careful consideration, I don't think I want to lose David. I hope he changes his mind. I went to that girl and put forward a suggestion that would only be made by a madman: to use dice to decide who David belongs to. That girl is just as crazy as me, she accepted it. The rules of the game are very clear: the loser withdrew from David's life, and the result was that I won. This seems to be what I expected, I never doubted that I would win. When I put forward this suggestion, I did not consider the huge risks implied by doing so. Perhaps my original intention was to prove that being with him was my destiny and an irreversible trajectory through this means.
Analysis: Amy's method is both wise and risky. She did not fall into a cycle of revenge, resentment, jealousy, and despair, nor did she dwell on the betrayal of men, but achieved a satisfactory result with a graceful attitude. Of course, she may lose, but what does it matter? Since it is fate's decision, willing to gamble and surrender.
Maintain distance
If there is a promiscuous man around, what solution is there besides leaving him?
Yuanyuan said: Marrying Ke Wei, I know there are risks. Even when we have a good relationship, he will always pay attention to other women, and I am well aware that he may be out of line at any time. But as long as his behavior does not affect the overall situation, I will not care, because what I love is his elegant and unrestrained spirit. But one day, I knew he had a relationship that had been going on for a long time. He hesitated and talked about the girl, and I understood that he was a bit serious this time. But I have already made up my mind: it is me who will stay, but it will take some time for the final clear result to come out. This triangular trend lasted for two years. In those two years, I didn't mention anything and pretended to know nothing, but instead created a small personal world where there was no place for Kewei. I was filled with the air of freedom. I don't want to leave him, but I also don't want to force him to stay by my side. Finally, the girl left him and Kewei completely returned to my side.
It is often wise to accept the fact that men are unfaithful for the time being. Men's infidelity can be seen as a disease they suffer from: take immediate action to suppress symptoms, and the disease will recur. By allowing the disease to fully develop, the patient has a great chance of recovery.
Analysis: Yuanyuan's approach requires a lot of patience. It requires women to endure their inner torment, slowly overcome it, and wait for the other person to change their mind. Even if the other person leaves you in the end, the immense power of your soul will leave him with lifelong memories. Of course, this is not something that everyone can do. People who are too sensitive and easily emotional are even more unable to do so, and there is no need to try, because what we need is a love style that suits us.
Close reconnaissance
It seems that all women have flipped over men's belongings, trying to find clues about whether men have infidelity. At the age of 32, Sophie believes that closely monitoring her significant other is a normal thing.
I almost flip through his pocket every day to see what appointment arrangements he has in his work notebook. This is already my habit. Because he didn't know, there was no problem between us, and everyone was still very happy. A specialized survey shows that 25% of women admit to taking surveillance actions against their spouse, including checking their notebooks and even tracking them on the street. The younger a woman is, the more likely she is to be suspicious. Sophie said, I love him very much, but he lied to me and dated another woman. I spy on him very closely, so I quickly found out. I wrote an anonymous letter to that girl, saying that I was writing these letters for her good. The man secretly accused her of being worthless, describing their experiences in bed to others, and spreading those vulgar details. He was only with her for the sake of gambling. Two weeks later, the girl left him.
Editor's note: These methods of trying to retain men have achieved some results, but have not fundamentally solved the problem. Reconnaissance or tracking one's partner may be a way to stay vigilant and avoid disloyal men keeping themselves in the dark. However, when a man is unfaithful, women should perhaps ask themselves more: why is he unfaithful? How to improve the relationship between two people? Why don't I trust him? Set aside the issue of infidelity and see where your own problems lie.
