How to Have Harmonious Sexual Life for Couples: Four Principles to Make Sex Like a Fish in Water

For a considerable period of time after marriage, my sexual life with my wife was in a state of unrequited love, mainly based on my needs. My wife only passively responded, as if she were an "outsider". Later, I summarized my experience and found that this was not a small problem, it was related to the quality of sexual life between husband and wife. If the quality of sexual life for a couple is not high, their needs are not fully met, and they cannot enjoy heartfelt happiness, "sex" will undoubtedly become a "decoration" in family life.

I started discussing issues related to "sex" with my wife and reading books together. I quietly bought a video tape about sex knowledge to learn and improve together.

My wife clearly feels that I care about her more in my daily life, and as a person who usually doesn't stick to small details, I often do some amazing things. The first thing I do when I come in after a business trip is to kiss my wife and occasionally send her flowers and greeting cards. Especially the love articles I write to my wife in newspapers and magazines, which often make her love her. She firmly believes that she has become an inseparable part of my life.

I understand that sexual life between couples should not be like a tight bow, but rather should have tension and relaxation, achieving harmony and unity between body and mind. Therefore, in my daily marital sexual life, I pay attention to adhering to four principles:

One is to master the rhythm. Before sexual intercourse, mutual caregiving between spouses may not be omnipotent, but it is indeed a key step in improving the quality of sexual life. It is like a prelude to a song or music, and if both parties feel happy in both visual and auditory aspects, sexual intercourse may enter a higher realm.

The second is to pay attention to changes in posture. Some couples engage in sexual activity and maintain a consistent posture for many years, which can be annoying over time. So, the form can be flexibly mastered, as long as both parties do not feel uncomfortable and try repeatedly.

Thirdly, one should learn to observe one's appearance. A husband's lack of understanding of his wife's sexual psychology is an irreparable mistake and can lead to the loss of previous achievements. Therefore, husbands should pay attention to their wives' feelings about sexual life and promptly inquire about their feelings at the moment.

The fourth is to create humor. A sense of humor is the lubricant of sexual life for couples. Making a face or saying a witty remark can add a relaxed and pleasant atmosphere to both parties, and even produce unexpected and wonderful effects.

The foundation of sexual love is love, and without mutual respect and harmony between husband and wife, there will never be a perfect combination of soul and flesh. The sublimation of ideal love and affection makes it difficult to achieve mutual pleasure, and it also cares about the unique effect of day and night.

There is no fixed pattern in marital life. I hope that all lovers in the world can learn to create and create their own new life.