Post Date December, 03 2023
In today's society, although marriage is an important state of life, many people's marriages are not perfect enough. Why is this? This is because after a long-term relationship after marriage, some people realize that their personalities are not the same and may even experience polarization.
So, in this situation, will our married life inevitably end with arguments and divorce? No, couples with significant personality differences can also achieve harmony and happiness with certain interpersonal skills. If we can all do the following, we will definitely get along well and become a loving couple.
Respecting each other's personalities
After marriage, we must have a certain correct understanding of the meaning of the word 'personality'. The most important thing is that after confirming this understanding, we should respect each other's personalities. Personality is a frequent and relatively stable rational and emotional tendency that a person exhibits towards things, without distinction between good and bad, different from moral character. Different personalities have their own strengths or weaknesses.
For example, an acute person has a straightforward personality and is easy to get along with, but is prone to getting angry. Getting angry may be unbearable. On the contrary, slow-moving individuals are mostly friendly, easy to get along with, and value quality in their work, but at a slower pace. Extroverts tend to be lively and outgoing, while introverted individuals tend to be stable and profound. Each has its own strengths and weaknesses.
Promote strengths and avoid weaknesses, and complement each other with heterogeneity
What you should know is that there are no two identical leaves in the world, nor two people with identical personalities. So, if we look at them from a different perspective, we can also complement each other's personalities.
The different experiences, interests, and temperaments of both spouses can be referred to as "heterogeneity", and heterogeneity can complement each other. Acute people are like impatient people, while slow people are like slow people. Although they have the same personality, they may cause conflicts. The former may cause chaos, while the latter may cause endless chaos without seeing clear skies. On the contrary, the combination of acute and slow temperament often leads to a balance of strength and softness, a balance between urgency and slowness, and a balance between movement and stillness, thereby complementing each other.
A person's personality is not immutable. Both spouses should also pay attention to gradually overcoming their shortcomings. For example, if one is too impatient, one should overcome their impatience with heart and handle things more calmly; If the temperament is too slow, one should pay more attention to speed when handling matters. But it should be noted that do not transform the other party, but rather respect and help them. In this way, there will definitely be harmony and happiness between couples.
(Intern Editor: Lai Jiaxing)
