Post Date November, 16 2024
Once in a computer class, the whole class left. I saw her tirelessly working on it, so I walked over and said, "What program is it?" "One of the programs I inputted can't be adjusted. Can you help me?" She said. I obediently moved a chair and sat next to her, thinking together. Suddenly, I felt a strange fragrant scent coming from her, and I couldn't help but stare at Ying with a stirring heart. At this moment, her white and tender chest was revealed from the open collar that leaned forward.
At that time, my brain was completely blank, and I only felt that subconsciously, my hand suddenly touched the breast in front of her chest, soft and elastic, and my whole body trembled like an electric shock. I seem to have said something to Ying, and I can't remember what I said. Suddenly, Ying stood up in embarrassment and anger, her lips turning purple with anger, and said to me, "I never thought you were such a despicable and indecent person!" Then she rushed out of the computer room. I was foolish at the time, what did I do? Why am I doing this? I regret it beyond my reach. Afterwards, I wrote a letter to her, saying that I loved her too much and acted foolishly on impulse, requesting her forgiveness, and so on. But she stopped paying attention to me and refused to even look at me.
She won't forgive me, she must have seen me as a big rascal. From the boy's narration, we can see that his feelings for Ying are pure and passionate, and he did indeed fall in love with Ying. We cannot say that this boy must be the kind of "big rascal", "big villain", or "scumbag" he himself refers to. However, he did make a significant mistake. He did not have a very conscious understanding of his sexual impulse, let alone a rational initiative to restrain it, so that it destroyed the beautiful flower of friendship between him and her, or he personally strangled the budding rose.
In fact, sexual impulse itself is not such an abnormal, terrifying, vulgar, or shameless thing. Young boys and girls in adolescence cannot completely free themselves from sexual impulses in heterosexual interactions. Its occurrence is largely due to the accelerated secretion of sex hormones in the body, and from a biological perspective, sexual impulse is a physiological and psychological phenomenon. It is often induced through two pathways.
One is caused by visual, auditory, olfactory, tactile, and gustatory stimuli that stimulate the brain's thinking. Whenever boys (girls) hear language signals that stimulate sexual excitement, or see or touch sexy parts of the opposite sex, or smell or taste the stimulating breath on the opposite sex's body, such as the fragrant breath in Ying's body mentioned above, or think about sexual issues in their minds, they will control the sexual center in the spinal cord through the brain, causing the erection or nourishment of the sexual organs.
The second is caused by direct stimulation of the sexual organs. After stimulation of the sexual organs, the sympathetic nervous system transmits signals to the sexual center of the brain, causing congestion of the sexual organs and producing reflex sexual impulses. For example, if a girl is accidentally bumped into her brain by the boy she loves, she will feel a soft and numbing sensation flowing throughout her body, producing an indescribable pleasure. Girls with weak willpower may engage in certain sexual impulses towards this boy.
However, in the interactions between young boys and girls, the proportion of boys experiencing sexual impulses is much higher than that of girls. The more serious and cherished the friendship between girls and the opposite sex, the less acceptable it is for boys to exhibit sexual impulses. Like the girl Ying mentioned above, she values their friendship very much, but when the boy suddenly behaves recklessly and disrespectfully due to sexual impulses, she is immediately angered. It is actually impossible for a girl of Ying's age to have any intention of sexual impulse when interacting with the opposite sex. However, they usually believe that the relationship between men and women is pure and cannot tolerate any rude words or actions to tarnish and restrain it. Of course, generally speaking, the tension of girls' sexual impulses is much weaker, and this serious attitude towards life is truly admirable.
Adolescent men and women who escape from healthy heterosexual interactions due to fear of each other or their own sexual impulses, adopting a solitary and closed approach is clearly not advisable. If sexual impulses occur too frequently during adolescence, some boys may experience dryness or even erection when they see the proud and protruding breasts of the opposite sex or the faintly visible underwear lines in their skirts, which will inevitably affect their normal learning, life, work, and interaction with the opposite sex. If efforts can be made from the following aspects, it should be possible to maintain a pure relationship or friendship between boys and girls.
Do you often spend time alone, thinking about sexual issues, paying special attention to the sensitive parts of girls around you, or discussing sexual topics with your peers? If the answer is yes, it is best to immediately "brake" and actively engage in collective life, such as participating in more sports, entertainment activities, knowledge competitions, watching more healthy film and television programs, especially those that are far away or not related to sex, such as football games, to dilute your attention and shift the excitement center of your brain's central nervous system.
Resist temptation, purify the source of stimulation. Yellow books and publications, obscene audio and video are the source of spiritual opium, which can induce impulses among young men and girls and incite them to engage in improper behavior. Adolescent boys and girls are most likely to be captured if they are not vigilant. So it is particularly important for adolescent boys and girls to consciously resist temptation, avoid reading or listening to sexually stimulating books, magazines, audio and video, and purify the sources of stimulation around them. In your spare time, it's best to read more books related to natural sciences, social sciences, or learning, so that your mind won't wander. Buffering and damping, weakening impulsiveness and desire for love are incredibly magical and wonderful. It is beautiful in mysterious colors and a few hazy threads, with strong attraction and temptation, making people yearn for and dream.
A pair of adolescent boys and girls have been together day and night for a long time, and it is inevitable that they will develop feelings over time. When one party becomes impulsive and cannot control their emotions, the other party is best to patiently persuade and politely refuse. Use your wisdom to weaken his/her impulsive desires, not to adopt an ambiguous attitude, or to appease and cater to grievances. Let him/her regain his/her sanity, face reality calmly, and avoid unfortunate events under your cushioning and shock absorption effect.
A person who maintains rationality and strengthens self-control is not an extraordinary and refined deity, nor is he living in the Peach Blossom Land, and cannot have no desires. But human impulses are constrained by morality, and human will can completely overcome the instinctive desires of the human body. Strengthening self-control exercise can overcome one's own desires. Generally speaking, a reserved and rational person with strong self-control often has an outgoing personality, a wide range of interests, a positive attitude, good moral literacy, and good life rhythm and habits. Therefore, even if these boys and girls have sexual impulses, they will use self-control to suppress them.
