Post Date December, 03 2023
Different people have different personalities, and as mothers-in-law, some are gentle, some are strict, some are careless, and some are cautious. If you are lucky enough, finding a mother-in-law can save you a lot of trouble. If your luck is average, encountering a mother-in-law who is not suitable for your personality is enough for you to worry about.
1、 Nurse type mother-in-law
Portrait: Everything at home and abroad is arranged in detail. If you sleep in on Sunday, she would love to bring breakfast to bed. Thinking of my son and wife as children or seriously ill patients in kindergarten, I feel like the sky would collapse without me.
Case: Chongqing Gu Madame, 34 years old
My mother-in-law is a particularly capable person. At first, I felt that having such a mother-in-law was very happy. After a long time, I felt that she was a bit too much. As a middle management of a foreign enterprise, I was taken care of as a baby at home, and I felt uncomfortable. For example, I always tell her to wash my underwear and socks myself. But as soon as I take it off, she'll wash it in the blink of an eye. To be honest, I feel embarrassed when my mother washes these things. Once, after taking a shower and combing my hair on the balcony, my mother-in-law picked up my thong and whispered, "This small piece of cloth can't even cover it. I'm suffering from gynecological diseases. Oh my goodness, I'm almost ashamed to death.
On Sunday, I really hope to go to the kitchen, but my mother-in-law always disagrees, saying that my hand is tapping on the computer. How can I hold a spatula? Once, after finally persuading her to let me stir fry the vegetables, she came over every minute and said, "Qin Qin, be careful not to cut your hand." "Qin Qin, the cabbage needs to be opened and washed, otherwise it won't be clean." She murmured, causing me to be upset and eventually cut my hand. From then on, I gave up the idea of cooking at home and often went to help the company's hourly workers.
Analysis: Nurse type mother-in-law is not only capable, hardworking, but also has a heart of dedication. Having such a mother-in-law is truly your blessing. Everything has its pros and cons. Don't exaggerate your troubles infinitely. By communicating seriously, many troubles can be solved.
Support: Practicing Skills Hard
Don't just blame your mother-in-law for taking care of too many things. She doesn't trust you in doing things, she has her own reasons. You might as well secretly practice some household tricks. One Sunday, let your husband take your mother-in-law out to play. You can keep the house tidy and tidy, and the food is cooked in a beautiful and fragrant manner. Such a persuasive move will make your mother-in-law feel embarrassed to take care of you too much.
Fully communicate your thoughts: If you simply and rudely refuse your mother-in-law's "care," she will find it difficult to understand and feel very sad. You may as well communicate with your mother-in-law in advance and tell her that you really want to learn the skills of being a housewife from her, hoping to be as good as her at her age. In this way, your mother-in-law will be very willing to teach you how to do household chores.
Making your husband appear more persuasive: being confident that you don't want to be taken care of in this way can make your husband appear to do work. If he tells his mother that he doesn't want his wife to do nothing, nor does he want her to always be like a kindergarten child, her mother-in-law will be willing to relax her care for you out of long-term consideration.
Division of labor with mother-in-law: If you are afraid of mother-in-law interfering in everything, you may as well divide labor with her and agree in advance that everyone will not interfere with each other when doing things. After completion, you can strive for more "autonomy".
2、 Cadre type mother-in-law
Portrait: Like the grandfather in the indoor drama "I Love My Family" and the Tang monk in "Journey to the West", he takes ideological and political work as his own responsibility and can experience joy from it. Their greatest ability is to elevate all small things in life to a theoretical level, and to reason and be emotional. They will not give up until they convince you, unless you faint in front of her.
Case: Mrs. Guo from Beijing, 31 years old
Before retiring, my mother-in-law was a department level cadre, and doing ideological and political work was her strong point. Now that I'm retired, I'll go home and use my "surplus heat". I speak casually and often belong to the target of transformation, but what's interesting is that my mother-in-law usually doesn't transform me, but instead transforms my husband, but I feel even more pressure.
One night, my husband and I were sitting on the sofa chatting, and he said that the son from the opposite family had recently switched from a Passat to a BMW, probably from someone else. I said you've been working hard to start a company for a year, and it's not as good as someone else's red envelope. Why don't you just give up your business and start politics. A joke was heard by the mother-in-law upstairs. She used an excuse to call her husband over. After half an hour, my husband came back to our room with his mouth covered and smiled, saying, "Mom has taught me at least ten cases of corrupt officials being dismissed this year
Now, even my five year old son knows not to speak recklessly at home, otherwise he will be looking for classes. When our mother-in-law is not at home, we are all very casual and sometimes intentionally spread some "reactionary remarks". But as long as our mother-in-law is present, we are all cautious.
