Post Date December, 02 2023
I have a strong personality, with a strong aura in both life and work, and a strong temper. I am also outstanding in all aspects of my work.
After getting married, I felt that my husband's job was not very good, so I found a friend to exchange him for a job with a good income but a busy one. Recently, I found that my husband easily sighs and sighs, which makes me feel bad. I have been pampered since I was young, and I rarely do household chores before obtaining my license. Now, I feel very tired of being entangled in household chores. My husband has a good relationship with me, but he is not very proactive in taking on household chores. He only does it at my command. Every time I encounter such a situation, I feel very uncomfortable. Recently, coupled with his tendency to sigh, it has made me even more irritable. Yesterday, I had a fight with my husband. I really don't know how to mediate this imbalanced mentality, how can I help him break the habit of sighing?
Miss Wen:
When I see such a problem, the first thing I see is that your rationality cannot accept the subconscious's choices, but it is unable to change the subconscious.
You are very strong, and you have chosen a relatively weak and secure husband. In fact, when in love, you should be aware that he is such a person, and the job is introduced by you. His abilities and mentality are relatively not strong, and if he sighs and sighs when encountering things, it becomes inevitable. The total income of both of you should be acceptable. If he is unwilling to do household chores and you don't want to do it, then spend some money hiring hourly workers to help you with household chores, which will solve the problem of your household chores. But in your heart, you actually expect him to be aware of his own problems. When you complain that he doesn't do household chores, you actually want to change him, not just how you want to adjust your unbalanced psychology. Marriage requires mutual tolerance and acceptance, rather than changing each other. You didn't worry about whether your husband likes the job you gave him. You looked at it from your perspective, so you couldn't understand the language behind his sighs. You love your husband very much. Although you have a strong personality, you are still willing to change and contribute to him in front of him. Therefore, communicate well with him to understand his inner feelings and not hurt each other because of love.
