Post Date December, 03 2023
After the article and the marriage crisis of Ma Yili appeared, Ma Yili said on her microblog that "go and cherish" shows the tolerance and greatness inherent in traditional Chinese women. Maintaining a marriage is definitely not as easy as we imagine, but it is not as difficult as legend suggests. Today, let's talk about how to "go and cherish" in marriage.
Rule 1:
Don't try to change your lover after marriage
Two people grow up in different environments and family backgrounds, and their personalities and preferences may also differ. If a person likes ballet and their spouse doesn't, it doesn't matter. Anyone who is reasonable can show tolerance for similar differences. But if you don't like their friends, or appreciate their sense of humor, especially if you don't agree with their values, then break up.
If your partner resents your personal lifestyle, then his behavior is indirectly affecting your marital status. Balzan believes that no matter where you are in the spectrum, your spouse must be at the same point as you. "Some couples are always in debt, late, and can find leftover pizza under the sofa mat, but they are very happy.".
Rule 2:
Less ambition, learn to belittle fame and wealth
When we were young and powerful, we were always dissatisfied with the reality. roast is not uncommon. Many young people hope to become famous, rich or both. There's nothing wrong with it. But if at the age of 40, you love your job, have found a soul mate, have lovely children, and realize that you may not become rich or famous in this lifetime, then it is important to mature and face the ambitions of your youth.
Murray has watched a TV program about American business tycoon and famous producer David Geffen, and one of the scenes has left him unforgettable. The camera scans Geffen's private plane, lined with rows of leather seats and sofas, sitting alone in the back row.
Murray said that when people are in their 20s and 30s, they feel a hundred claws scratching their hearts because they are worried about their failure. This sense of anxiety is one of the side effects of ambition. Murray concluded that fame and wealth can indeed do something, such as healing the anxiety caused by ambition, but that's all.
Rule 3:
Learn how to live by watching Groundhog Day
Murray recommends that people watch a movie called "Groundhog Day" repeatedly. This movie was shot more than 20 years ago, but it answers the most basic questions about happiness. A weather announcer was sent to Poncey, Pennsylvania, to report on Groundhog Day.
"He hated the idea in his heart, despised the people and everything that happened there, and couldn't wait to return to Pittsburgh.". But a snowstorm came and trapped him in Poncey. Every morning he woke up, it was Groundhog Day, and the days repeated day by day. In order to get rid of the repetitive life, he has fallen and committed suicide in vain, and every day he wakes up is still Groundhog Day. He complained to his sweetheart, who suggested that he take the opportunity to improve himself. From then on, he worked hard to understand his beloved, understand the small town where he lives, take the initiative to help others, learn new things, and finally embrace the beauty and usher in a new day.
Rule 4:
Put inclusiveness through every day
After getting married, it is necessary to have a tolerant heart towards the other party. The other party has difficulties that you cannot understand. At this time, as long as the other party's behavior does not violate the marriage bottom line, don't make a fuss and give the other party sufficient time and space to handle difficult matters. Inclusion will keep your marriage moving forward steadily.
(Intern editor: Lai Jiaxing)
