How should young children deal with playing with their genitals? Children's sex education should start from a young age

Mr. Zhang's son is 5 years old and usually attends kindergarten. In the past few days, my son has been feeling unwell, and Mr. Zhang can also take a few days off, so the child is playing coquettishly and demanding to play. Being entangled by his son, Mr. Zhang agreed to his request and did not let his son go to kindergarten. However, during his nap, Mr. Zhang discovered that his son was not sleeping well and was mocking his little chicken. This discovery surprised Mr. Zhang and nervously said, 'What should I do at such a young age when my son masturbated?'? After Mr. Wang, his lover, returned home at night, Mr. Zhang couldn't wait to tell his wife, who was studying psychology, about his findings during the day. Mr. Wang is very calm. She asked her son to quietly ask him why he played with his little cock during nap. His son was very frank, and he replied that he didn't like nap and was tired of nap. However, the kindergarten decided to take a nap for two hours, and the child could only endure this time. Once, he was so itchy that he occasionally played with his little cock and accidentally found himself comfortable, so he always did this during his nap.

Psychologists believe that the act of manipulating the genitals is a manifestation of human physiological instincts. In early childhood, many children, like Mr. Zhang's son, unintentionally discover that touching and rubbing the genitals can produce pleasant feelings and experiences. Masturbation to varying degrees is a common behavior among children aged 1 to 6, and this behavior itself has nothing to do with morality for young children, It's just a sensory stimulation activity.

However, although many parents have heard of it, they have seen from the information or experienced it themselves that if masturbation is not too excessive, it is harmless and will not affect development, nor cause mental disorders, loss of fertility, and the result of weakness. Parents feel uneasy about their children's masturbation. They are indifferent, ignore, sternly condemn and punish children, and prevent them from masturbating. However, danger is likely to lurk here - children feel very anxious, nervous, and guilty about their actions. An action that originally had no special significance for children puts a heavy mental burden on them. What's worse, deliberately suppressing oneself can sometimes only have a counterproductive effect, but instead exacerbates the child's desire to masturbate.

If a child masturbates excessively or at inappropriate times (such as in public places or in front of guests), the guardian must be prevented. The reason for a child's masturbation may be a lack of other pleasures in life, parents not needing him, not loving him, being lonely, or others not liking him, rejecting him, or lacking abilities in certain aspects of school life. In addition, many children just accidentally start masturbating like Mr. Zhang.

In order to prevent and eliminate masturbation in children, the first step is to distract children's attention. Regarding his son's sexual behavior, Mr. Wang contacted his homeroom teacher and arranged for him to play with suitable intellectual toys during nap. Pleasant entertainment games quickly replaced masturbation. After the son's attention was completely diverted, Xiao Wang began to induce the child to take a nap.

Secondly, parents should strive to promote their children's other interests. If the child is not very active and spends too much time alone, he should try to draw his attention from his own body to other activities outside his body, so as to cultivate his interest in games, learning and interpersonal communication. No matter how busy work is, parents should try to squeeze out time with their children to fully feel their parents' care.

Finally, parents should face their children's behavior with an understanding attitude and patiently and objectively explain to them that private behavior cannot be carried out in public. This sexual behavior is not an abnormal phenomenon or moral damage, but it is best not to be so boring. If it is found that a child's masturbation is psychologically unsettling, it is necessary to arrange more beneficial activities for him to help him be cheerful and happy.

How to carry out children's sex education correctly

Properly handling thirst for knowledge

When a child raises a certain personality question, it does not actually mean that the child wants to know what adults think about sex knowledge, nor does it mean that the child is interested in sex appeal. This is just their thirst for knowledge and curiosity. However, if parents not only do not answer the child's questions, but also scold the child, scold the child, kill the desire for knowledge, distort sexual concepts, and bring great harm to the child's early sexual psychology, Since childhood, children have formed the concept of externality organs, messy and ugly sexual activities, which has brought bad sexual concepts and knowledge to children.

Adverse consequences of fraud

Some parents shy away from answering their children's sudden sexual questions, but since their children have raised them, they cannot help but answer them. In times of difficulty, parents choose to resort to deception. The most common question is how did I get here? Parents provide more answers and always deceive their children with randomly edited stories. And when these "white" lies are exposed by children, they also learn to be hypocritical, which affects their health and development, and even affects their correct understanding of sex.

Beating and cursing make young children feel inferior

Due to parents' weak awareness of sex education, there is an incorrect understanding of sex itself. Therefore, when children raise relevant questions or take relevant actions. For example, touching the genitals, playing sexual games, etc., guardians will face significant punishment and cursing. This kind of wrong behavior by parents not only fails to educate their children correctly, but also affects their mood. Children believe that their problems are wrong, lack confidence, fear of work from their parents, intentionally estrangement, communication between children and their parents becomes obstacles, and relationships seem unknown.

This erroneous behavior can also lead to distorted sexual psychology, attitudes, oppression, and fear in children, affecting their future lives, and even leading to dysfunction such as sexual apathy, low libido, erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, and sexual fear in adulthood.

Don't take it seriously

As I have said before, conversational behavior towards children must be carried out in a natural and free environment, and serious conversational behavior must fail. Many guardians often fail in communication with their children. They take their children seriously and suppress them, so they want to communicate with their families. Parents should look for multiple opportunities to discuss sexual issues with their children at appropriate times. The focus of implementing "opportunity education" is to hit the nail on the head rather than lengthy speeches.

Tell me what I can do

During the education process, parents should not always emphasize 'what cannot be done' in front of their children. If parents always tell their children in the unknown sex field that they can't do this, it's not good. They even draw up a list of sexual behavior prohibitions. Instead, children will be interested in these "forbidden areas", and they will want to have a try. Even because of the reverse psychology of adolescence, they are more interested in these things. Therefore, when parents want to warn their children not to engage in sexual activity before marriage, they can tell them what they can do, such as shaking hands, hugging, or kissing each other, but they must also warn their children of things they do not want them to do, such as' never harm another person '. This makes it easier for children to accept advice.

Unified Thought on Sexual Education

The love between parents is the most convincing example for children in terms of sex education. The biggest danger in sex education is that parents have different opinions on sexual morality and ideas. Therefore, parents must unify their thinking and educate their children together before providing sex education to their children.