Post Date December, 03 2023
1. Visual exercise
To truly mature, a man must experience a decent failure, an unforgettable breakup, a difficult and painful choice, and a thrilling adventure. He has not experienced it, his life is incomplete, he has not experienced it, and his thoughts are not profound.
Looking at it from a distance, the right to divorce can be seen as a "wilderness survival training".
2. Be grateful
She once swore to be with you for life and committed herself to you. What kind of love is this! In addition, from the perspective of probability, there are tens of thousands of marriage partners that a person can choose from, but it is difficult to meet the one who is truly suitable for you. The "she" who is more suitable for you must still be waiting for you somewhere. The departure of the previous one has not only accumulated important experience, but also provided you with an additional opportunity to choose again. In any sense, you should be grateful.
3. Free from commitment
Divorce can definitely hurt, but it can also be a turnaround. Although we may know from our analysis that the passive person may suffer more harm, we should also know in the adjustment after divorce that the biggest challenge is not to fall into the mire of who has suffered the deepest harm, but to perceive and face the harm and hope, and treat divorce as a stage of growth.
"At the beginning, we made promises to each other and allowed each other to become a part of our lives. Now that we divorce, we feel as if we have lost a part of ourselves.". But the exact thing is: to lose this part and liberate yourself from the original promise, rather than being trapped by it.
4. Active healing
It is generally believed that "the only thing that can wash away all emotional distress is time, except for tears. Passing on with time, the longer it takes, the more conflicts become, as if they were continuously diluted tea." Although time is a good medicine, how do you spend the ordeal of healing this period of time?
Emergency suggestion 1: Create happiness with the same content that brings you pain, and neutralize the pain. We should start a new love long march as soon as possible, actively participate in social activities, pay attention to the beautiful images around us, and go all out to prepare for a grand love affair at any time.
Emergency advice 2: The more difficult times are, the more you should not indulge in tobacco, alcohol, hemp, or internet, otherwise you will develop bad habits, downgrade yourself, and face greater failure.
Emergency Recommendation 3: Recreate yourself purposefully, create a new work plan or life goal for yourself, and be sure to announce it publicly. For example, if you want to develop a new project within the year, climb the five famous mountains, earn RMB N million, win a popular qualification certificate, and so on, publicly promise that you will go all out. When a man is too busy for his career, emotional issues will automatically fall to the second place. When you enjoy the infinite scenery at the peak of success, you will feel how naive it is to be infatuated with the stream at the foot of the mountain!
5. Receive professional guidance
Divorce is a major event in life, and the blows and injuries make the parties yearn for someone to understand their emotions. In particular, male friends like Zhang Wei, although seemingly extremely strong and maintaining a false face, need the help of professionals to clarify their inner suffering. And when there is a lack of friends around who can understand and listen, the professional guidance of a psychologist can provide strong support.
(Intern Editor: Chen Hao)
