Post Date December, 03 2023
Extramarital affairs are a very emotional activity of human beings. Due to its unique activity form and input-output method, analyzing it using cost analysis method makes it easier to reveal its non normality and anti morality, thereby achieving the goal of reducing the probability of occurrence.
Based on the descriptions of extramarital affairs in street gossip, gossip news, and literary works, the cost of extramarital affairs can be classified as follows.
Choosing to cheat and losing his wife's feelings
Choosing one opportunity means giving up another opportunity, so choosing requires a price, which is cost. For example, if you are hungry to lose weight, the desire to lose fat and achieve weight loss is a benefit, and the hungry food and the resulting hunger and damage to organs are the cost of investment. Because of the exclusiveness of human love, the choice of extramarital affairs will sacrifice the once happy family and bring about negative effects on personal reputation. When facing the temptation of love after marriage, a person can choose to refuse or choose extramarital affairs. Then, when choosing extramarital affairs, they will pay the opportunity cost of sacrificing their family and personal reputation.
You may encounter a blank slate
There are risks in doing anything, and to prevent these risks, costs must be paid. Extramarital affairs are a high-risk activity as they are not a normal relationship. To prevent risks, it is necessary to be cautious and invest more energy, material resources, and financial resources, which is a risk cost. Another way is that due to extramarital affairs not being protected by law, there is a risk of disintegration at any time. In order to stabilize the relationship, both men and women or one party will adopt methods such as mental containment and material temptation to prevent risks, and these investments are also risk costs.
The impact of infidelity on other aspects of life
In order to ascertain the situation of the other party in an extramarital affair, whether out of concern or reconnaissance, both parties need to achieve it through telephone, internet, letter, interpersonal communication, etc. Therefore, they need to pay telephone fees, internet usage fees, communication fees, interpersonal social expenses, etc. In addition, one or both parties involved in an extramarital affair are unable to obtain accurate information about the outcome of their relationship, leading to addiction and ultimately resulting in the failure of their emotional activities due to a lack or asymmetry of information, resulting in feelings of pain, regret, or helplessness, which can affect their personal lives, which is also the cost of information.
The cost of being with the mistress
Everyone needs to eat and entertain, and the parties involved in extramarital affairs, due to their special circumstances, further increase the consumption of food and entertainment costs. Due to the fact that the two of them do not aim for life, but rather for pleasure, the cost of dining and entertainment is higher than that of normal people. In order to please the other party, one side of an extramarital affair tends to have a higher level of consumption. Few novels describe an extramarital affair in which two people drink Congee and eat pickles together. In terms of entertainment, in novels, the common way for both parties to engage in extramarital affairs is to go to a dance hall to sing or dance, or to a coffee shop or tea house to have tea and chat, which requires a high cost.
The cost of extramarital affairs in terms of etiquette includes the cost of purchasing flowers. For Valentine's Day, the other party's birthday, Christmas, and other occasions, flowers need to be sent to win their favor. The second is cake and snacks. For each other's birthday or festival, buy cakes or snacks such as melon seeds, peanuts, and sour plum to adjust the atmosphere. Except for children, everyone eats cakes and snacks only for their symbolic meaning, so the cost in this regard belongs to the cost of etiquette. The third is cosmetics, which are mostly the cost consumed by the woman. The fourth is clothing, buying clothing for the other party to maintain a good image and strengthen relationships.
Derailment has become common
At present, the phenomenon of 'mistresses' is rampant in society, and some people believe it is abnormal. To some extent, it is becoming increasingly normal. With the continuous development of society, people's basic desires have already been satisfied, and they will begin to pursue their inner or spiritual satisfaction, which will give birth to many social phenomena that are very different from the past. Many people begin to become unwilling to control their desires and demands.
Nowadays, society has become popular with "sub lovers", which can be said to be a "spiritual mistress" used by people to alleviate the fatigue brought about by society.
From their own perspective, 'mistresses' are to a large extent quite independent. They are not dependent on someone and sometimes even pursue spiritual and emotional satisfaction more.
In terms of quantity or popularity, "mistresses", due to their pursuit of money and material satisfaction, inevitably occupy a very small proportion in society, as this requires men to have good material conditions. And the requirements for this aspect have been greatly reduced by 'mistresses', so some people who may not have good economic conditions themselves can also have mistresses. This makes the universality of 'Xiao San' stronger.
How to keep a man from cheating?
We usually believe that sexual liberation comes from Western society, and their marriages are also quite chaotic. In fact, what is truly chaotic is a small group of people, and as the backbone of society, the middle class is mostly conservative. Perhaps they may have had multiple romantic relationships before marriage, but once they get married, they will abide by their engagement and will not and dare not easily betray. Because the cost of divorce stipulated in laws and regulations is not low, wives usually take up legal weapons to protect their dignity and rights when facing mistresses.
Whether it's the East or the West, this has always been a hot topic. Does it have a solution or not? How to deal with it? How to avoid it? It is undeniable that in China, the phenomenon of infidelity has increased, which is related to the low cost of infidelity. In China, due to the relatively low cost of infidelity, the current "mistress" phenomenon can be said to be more serious than many Western countries. All civilized societies now follow monogamy. But no one can guarantee that the marriage will remain unchanged, so it is necessary for both spouses to jointly manage this marriage. Many women fall into a misconception after marriage, which is that once they get married, as long as they take good care of it, there will be no problems and they will become a wife who has not changed for several years. It is necessary to point out that after marriage, both spouses need to continue to maintain freshness, which can be changing their hairstyles, having a romantic dinner, or often bringing small surprises to each other.
Couples should often reminisce about the beauty of life together. People are very forgetful, and strengthening memory is an essential way to consolidate marriage. At the same time, good communication is also an indispensable part between couples.
Of course, people's self-discipline is also very important for themselves. After gaining self-discipline, people will learn to control their desires, which can also reduce the chances of marital infidelity.
Although it is said that infidelity is mostly male, there is actually no distinction between men and women. This also reminds us that the continuation of a relationship requires the joint investment of two people, and even after marriage, there should be no slackening. Otherwise, it's easy to come to me about the affair.
