Post Date December, 03 2023
With the advent of the information age, one can work, shop, make friends, and have fun without leaving home. With just one computer and one internet cable, one can understand everything in the world, and thus, "otaku" has multiplied. The so-called 'otaku', also known as the 'otaku clan', originally referred to young people who do not leave their homes, are not groomed, do not work, do not socialize, are passionate about anime, video games, etc., and are addicted to the internet and computer games. They only live in their own world all day and lack social skills.
With the development of the times, more IT white-collar workers have joined the "otaku" group, overturning the old concept. Most of their work is done on computers, without personality communication barriers, independent thinking, distinct personality, self-sufficiency, and do not like to linger in public places, or full-time or soho. However, the nature of their work determines that they are silent and have a simple life. "otaku" is the suitable way of life for them, However, this approach more or less affects their love process.
How to balance love while staying at home may be something that troubles most IT "otaku men". They are busy with work and finally have free time, but they only want to stay at home. As they grow older and see others spend time together, they can only sigh at the moon and feel lonely. They want to find a girl to talk about romantic relationships with them, but they are helpless due to their lack of social interaction, Suffering from not having the opportunity to meet girls.
Some IT "otaku men" have been wholeheartedly focused on their work since graduating from university. They have been in love with others and work, while others have been in a bad relationship and they are still working. After several years of hard work, their careers have achieved success, and they have finally lived up to their youthful years. Finally, when he didn't have to work so hard anymore, as he watched his friends waving their girlfriends' hands in front of him, he realized that he was almost thirty years old. First, he had established a career, and then he should start a family. However, when it comes to getting married, he made a difficult decision when it comes to finding girlfriends. Where to find them, how to find them, and who to find them?
So, while many IT "otaku" lament where "spring" is, experts create a love channel for many IT "otaku" who have no way to fall in love, searching for their belated spring.
Viewpoint:
Homestead "is a way of life that is almost unchanging in terms of work and daily routines. Although it may be low-key and obedient, it cannot be transformed into a dull, boring, and cowardly person. If one is enclosed in their own world and over time forms symptoms of social deficiency syndrome, they not only cannot find" spring ", but also make themselves silent in the deepest part of winter, with no one knowing the warmth or coldness, There is no place to complain about joys and sorrows. Therefore, the first thing that it "otaku" needs to open is not the door of their home, but the door of their own heart. Only by opening the door of their heart can they go out and others enter.
Step 1: Confidence
Many IT "otaku" become introverted or even dull due to prolonged "otaku", which leads to negative scores on their first impression, so improving confidence is a key point. A confident man, when interacting with girls, will not act affectedly, behave naturally and appropriately, leaving a good impression on others. While being confident, one can better showcase their strengths and strengths, making girls unconsciously attracted.
How to enhance confidence:
1. The most important thing is to identify with oneself first, and only after self-identity can one gain recognition from others.
2. Humbly accept others' opinions and suggestions, and correct one's own shortcomings.
3. Be kind to your mistakes and avoid repeating them, and every mistake is a learning experience.
4. Pay attention to emotional regulation and maintain an optimistic attitude.
5. There is no need to deliberately change oneself in order to please others. The stronger one's ability, the more convinced others can be.
6. Don't be too concerned about losing or winning certain things in life, the manifestation of self-worth is not limited to a single aspect.
7. To be a responsible person and actively face the responsibilities and pressures in life, one can take control of life in their own hands.
8. The work and life standards set for oneself should be realistic, without overly demanding perfection, nor should they be without standards. Only by finding the way that suits oneself can we do what we can.
Step 2: Self modification
For it "otaku", they spend most of their time working and playing with computers, often having low requirements for appearance and neglecting their own embellishments, which can easily give people the impression of being unkempt. Although comfortable clothing is important, everyone has an aesthetic awareness. If one does not embellish their appearance at all, it will greatly discount their first impression on a girl.
Strengthen the decoration of the appearance, not necessarily to be more trendy or fashionable, but to appropriately change the style, dress clean, neat, and appropriate. Even if you are not a handsome man, such decoration will leave a good impression on the girl.
External modification is one aspect, and more importantly, internal modification. A person's temperament and cultivation, no matter how gorgeous their clothing is, cannot be mounted. On the one hand, temperament and cultivation are innate, and on the other hand, they are also cultivated. To achieve outstanding temperament and cultivation, in addition to dressing appropriately and speaking appropriately, one should also know how to leverage their strengths, overcome their shortcomings, continuously improve their knowledge and moral cultivation, enrich themselves, and enhance their personal charm.
Step 3: Take the initiative to attack
If an IT "otaku" is not proactive enough in love and stays at home, no girl will knock on the door and say, "Hi, I want to meet you." This kind of plot can only happen in movies or TV, and the probability of this happening in reality is no less than winning a lottery.
Nowadays, with the advancement of information and a rich entertainment life, there are more and more ways and opportunities to meet girls. If you just don't like going out and blindly stay at home, you can also use your own advantages - "key chat", developed online consulting, various dating websites, and various chat tools, there will always be one that suits you. For "otaku" who have a clear purpose and want to find their girlfriend in a shortcut, dating websites may be more suitable. Nowadays, dating websites are managed in a standardized manner and have a large amount of information. To find a suitable girl based on one's own conditions, one only needs to fill in their own information and requirements. The website naturally lists the eligible objects, eliminating the need to frequently meet girls through chat tools and spread the internet, but still unable to find the one that suits them.
If you are not an IT "otaku" who doesn't leave home at all, you can meet various types of girls during travel, group activities, even in cinemas, cafes, bars, and other places. Don't be shy and take the initiative to greet them. A simple greeting may be the beginning of a relationship.
Step 4: Find the person you love
After finding the girl you like, if you fall in love, you will naturally enter the romantic stage.
Love is also like a flower, requiring sunlight, water, and nutrition. If you only put it in a glass cover, do not take care of it, or take careful care of it, your love flower may soon wither, and your spring will only be a fleeting flash in the pan.
Message:
Since you are in love, let's step out of the "house" door and let the flower of love breathe more fresh air. Go on a happy date, create a new circle of friends with your girlfriend, step out of the closed and boring "house" circle, try more new things, exchange more ideas with each other, and cultivate common interests and hobbies. Love is like a classroom, where two people constantly blend in, understand and tolerate each other, in order to learn better and grow up for the second time.
Abandoning the world of one person in the past, the IT "otaku" opened his heart and let himself come out, holding hands with the beloved one to walk into the world of two people. So, spring came, and flowers also bloomed!
