He has been betrayed by women before, but after marriage, he bestowed resentment on me.

We met through an agent's introduction and have been together for nearly a year. At first, he looked calm on the surface and gentle in character. We got along very well together, so we set a date and got married. After getting married, I found that he looked like a different person, and his personality became very rough. Whenever and wherever he didn't respond to his wishes with a word or two, he turned around and left, leaving me with even less trust before marriage. If his words didn't agree, he started to fight me. I often got black and blue due to disputes with him. He never speaks in a low voice and is used to roar. In public, others will look at us with strange eyes, which makes me feel particularly embarrassed.

In my first year of marriage, I became pregnant. Because of my idle boredom, I chatted with my online friends and was discovered by him. He thought I was cheating and fantasized that the child wasn't his and wanted me to kill him. If it weren't for my strong opposition, he would have dragged me to the hospital. His behavior is close to being abnormal, and I wonder why he has such thoughts. Later, his good friend came to my house as a guest and told me about his previous love history: his ex girlfriend, who went with a wealthy person, dumped him. And walked quietly without even leaving a word for him. During that time, he almost committed suicide in the emotional haze. Later, when I met you, it was considered a resurrection.

In fact, his abnormal behavior made me disappointed several times and I really wanted to divorce him. After listening to his friend's words, I suddenly felt sympathy for him from the bottom of my heart. I'm just a man who has been hurt by his feelings, and I shouldn't argue with him. After this incident, he and his friend were very drunk for a long time. When he came home, he hugged me and cried. He said a lot of heartwarming things, saying, "Why shouldn't you argue with me, suspect me, or make me cry?" He drank so hard that his tongue straightened up. Over and over again, with these words, I pulled him up in pain, and we made up. A year later, I successfully gave birth to our son, and the whole family was very happy.

"Our marriage can be described as having experienced several twists and turns. When the child was one year old, his son's motherfucker habit recurred, like he smoked a lot and became addicted to drugs. His temper came up as soon as he spoke, and sometimes he had a good conversation, and suddenly he broke out. He even attacked me in front of the child. Once, his son was frightened because he spoke too loudly, which I have always hated him for.". "He doesn't care about the consequences of hitting people, and he doesn't give up unless things get big.". Even my mother-in-law couldn't stand his behavior, so help me scold my husband together. Every quarrel is a very small matter, and he always uses violence to solve it. My heart is cold. For such a person, such a marriage, how on earth should I solve it? Does he still have a chance to become a normal person?

Reply from the maintenance consultant:

Hello, from your narration, your husband belongs to a personality split caused by later stimulation. This type of person will be moody and quarrelsome whenever they encounter opinions or suggestions that are contrary to their own, often making a big fuss over small matters, becoming furious, and even carrying out personal attacks on you. Irascible people are generally more conceited, unable to accommodate different opinions, and completely have a feeling of going their own way, without scruples about the feelings of others. Your husband establishes his supreme authority and satisfies his vanity by beating and scolding you.

Domestic violence is not allowed in today's society. When encountering this kind of man, one must either stay away from him or change him. Of course, the process of change is very difficult. "But you want him to have a chance to become a normal person, which indicates that in your heart, you are unwilling to divorce him." A day of marriage is a hundred days of grace, "and you cannot part with this relationship.". Here is my personal suggestion. Instead of confronting him head-on, I might as well change my perspective, find out more about his strengths and advantages, and give him more praise. A man is born with a good face. You hold him high, satisfy his vanity, eliminate his hostility, and gradually awaken his kind and gentle side.

Use a soft approach to overcoming hard work. Don't try to reason with an unreasonable person. Be honest with them and treat them with laughter instead of confrontation. A woman's smile is the weapon that can best defuse a man's anger. In addition, creating a warm atmosphere in the home, which is too monotonous, can also lead to psychological imbalance, emotional runaway, filling one's heart with positive energy, infecting him, and ultimately discovering the seriousness of the consequences of one's irascible temper. If this approach still doesn't work for him, then divorce is your best choice. Following a man who doesn't eat hard or soft won't lead a good life. You should be very clear about this. Good luck.