Have you done a few things about how couples can be happier and maintain their relationship

There is a Chinese saying that goes well: "To strike is to scold in person is to love, and to scold is to love. In real life, small quarrels between couples also enhance their relationship. So how do couples get along well? Today, the editor will tell you how to get along well between couples.

How should couples get along well?

Recently, a report published in an American magazine pointed out that compared to couples who are polite to each other and never blush, couples who enjoy flirting and occasionally bickering have more harmonious sexual relationships.

Marriage relationship scientists and psychologists from New York University conducted this study. Through a questionnaire survey of 1209 couples, researchers found that being too polite between couples can affect each other's sexual desire.

Psychologists believe that sex is an impulse for one person to explore the hidden realm of another. If a couple overly emphasizes elegance, they will suppress their emotions, and restraint is greater than impulse. Although it avoids arguments, it may lead to a masked couple, causing their hearts to become increasingly distant, and also leading to a lack of passion for sex.

A survey found that after occasional arguments, laughing together, and one party sharing their sadness, it is a good time to have sex, and couples often further enhance their relationship through sex.

Researchers suggest that in order to establish intimacy, couples can read a romantic novel together, engage in intimate massages, confide in each other's emotions, or even argue, all of which can enhance their relationship more than silence.

How to maintain the relationship between husband and wife?

Reasonable consumption and moderate consumption

Although we advocate love, we also need money as the foundation. However, money is not omnipotent. It is us who manipulate money, not money who manipulates us.

Whether it's wealthy or friends who are not too rich, we should be rational in our money consumption and not blindly, because there are too many families arguing for money, so the first thing we need to control is money! Let money become a tool for our better life, not a slave to money!

Credit cards are a big taboo in our family, because we used to be unable to make ends meet with a credit card that allows us to spend freely. This card belongs to my husband, so he never asked for a credit card again. Although I still have a credit card in my family, we will not easily use it because we have reached an agreement: without purchasing large items, we can do as much as we have and live as much as we have!

At this point, we have truly achieved a business with quantity, rational and reasonable consumption!

Be considerate and tolerant of the other party

This is easy to say, but difficult to do! Before getting married, we often had arguments due to differences in personality and beliefs, which we called 'arguments' at the time. After every argument, it was always a cold war, and every time I spoke to him generously, so our relationship quickly reached a period of adjustment (a man is like a child, never grows up, and needs to be cared for like a mother), so I am willing to take a step forward first!

This way, we can more and more consider each other. We are becoming more and more like-minded. I can also feel that he is moving forward and no longer fussing about it. Later on, I don't know when I started arguing, but instead he spoke to me first!

This feeling is very subtle! Only those living between husband and wife can experience it!

Provide understanding and support for work difficulties

To be honest, if it weren't for my understanding and support, due to the bottleneck period of my husband's work, we might not be able to go on!

Because the bottleneck period of his work is too long, as long as 6 years, at the beginning, he still needed my financial support. However, with my understanding and support, he is gradually changing himself. I can also see his efforts, so I chose to give him more understanding and support. It wasn't until last year that his work finally broke through the bottleneck period and he worked even harder and harder, that I realized that all my years of grievances were not in vain!

After work, everyone does household chores together

My husband is very good at this because he is very good at stir frying. He always stirs up the big and small dishes, and only switches to me when he is very busy and tired. Because I haven't been cooking for too long, my cooking skills can't progress at all! ha-ha!

But cleaning up the house is my forte! I take care of all the hygiene at home, and sometimes my husband mops the floor! They can't do the chores of refrigerators, washing machines, washing dishes, and washing clothes well (including mother-in-law). But I never say they are not, because everyone has their own lifestyle habits, and it is impossible to expect everyone to be perfect!

Because I know I have many negative aspects, what qualifications do I have to demand from others?

Travel

Long distance travel, I dare not expect too much because I have children and the economy does not allow it, but short distance travel can still be considered!

Try to do this as much as possible, because I think we are all very homely people!

watch movie

This is also a good way to cultivate emotions! A movie with only two people, no baby! I haven't been able to enjoy this two person world for a long time. This feeling is wonderful!

Festival celebration

At this point, we feel less and less useful. We hardly celebrate any festivals, and now except for celebrating our son's birthday, all other days are not included in the celebration!

In fact, this is not acceptable. Although the economy is limited, it is possible to achieve a celebratory effect without spending too much! Because occasional small surprises are a great lubricant for couples!

Sexual Happiness in Life

Of course, a happy life cannot be separated from the word "sex". Although some people say that men are animals that think with their lower bodies, sometimes this wonderful word "sex" is also essential for regulating marital life!

It's like a delicious dish that can be eaten without adding MSG, but with MSG added, the taste will be even more wonderful! But it's also important not to add too much, maintain a certain level, because emotions are not built on this' sex 'after all! You still need to start your own business, the better your business, the longer your relationship will last!