Post Date December, 03 2023
My girlfriend and I have known each other for almost a year. We met through a friend's introduction, and our first impression of each other was very good. After meeting once, as we were both working in different cities and in different cities, we had to contact each other by phone or SMS in the early stage. Especially at the beginning, we had almost endless conversations every day, with at least one hour of conversation and at least 200 text messages. At that time, we all felt very happy. Later, he came to my city for a business trip due to work reasons, and we played together for a few days, feeling particularly happy! Later, I took leave almost every two months to visit him in her city, and I also visited his sister's house. His sister also has a good impression on me, which means I'm a bit deep. We went to many tourist attractions, and we were so happy every day.
She is in the catering industry and knows a lot of people! I have to work every day, sometimes at night. However, in the past two months, somehow our contact has mysteriously decreased. When I called her, she always looked a bit preoccupied and impatient, perhaps because she was too tired! The content of our text message and his response are not as emotional between the lines as they used to be. Sometimes I don't send him messages all day and she doesn't take the initiative to contact me. Frequent replies to messages also take a long time! In this regard, I always coax her and accommodate her.
Last month, I went to his city to see him, and he also went to the railway station to meet me. But to be honest, I obviously felt that we didn't have the intimate feeling we had before, and seemed a bit rusty! "I want to hug her, but it feels like he's also a bit reserved and ostracized, and he doesn't have the warm feeling after meeting lovers.". When we lived together, he always carried his phone with him at all times, including when taking a shower, as if he was hiding something. "I didn't say anything directly to him about all this. I think men should have some tolerance, have some confidence in themselves, and also give each other space for relative independence.". When we were shopping together, he always had some text messages to reply to, but then deleted all the information content. Sometimes when answering a phone call, he always avoided me. I also asked her, and he said it was a customer ordering food and so on! I believe in her~To be honest, I always feel uneasy inside, and I don't want to argue with her. When we are together, I always let her and follow him!
After I left his city, our communication has not improved in the past few days. I had a deep communication with him and said, "We are long-distance lovers, we spend less time together, and time and distance are the biggest killers of our relationships. Therefore, we must be timely, in place, and keep communication smooth, without misunderstanding and estrangement!"! She also agrees. "But now there is still no change. I send messages and he always takes half a day to reply, sometimes he doesn't reply at all.". I feel like I have nothing to say within a few minutes of speaking on the phone! I really feel very painful now, my heart is worn out~I love him with all my heart, and I care about her very much. Even though I feel that he is a bit abnormal in some things, I still believe in her and myself. Sometimes I just wonder if I'm paranoid, or what's wrong? What should I do in the face of the current situation? What am I supposed to do? Teacher Pang, can you help me point the way? Thank you~~~
Looking forward to your reply.
Re:
Hello, little friend A, thank you for your trust.
To be honest, I'm not very optimistic about long-distance relationships. For this kind of relationship where distance produces beauty, I believe that it is destined to return to mediocrity and even become strangers as space draws closer and beauty gradually disappears. Judging from her abnormal behavior, she is likely to have a "new love" and avoid you everywhere without rejecting you. It indicates that she is watching and is suspected of stepping on two boats.
If your relationship turns into your unrequited love affair, it is obviously of no value to you. If you really can't put it down, I suggest you have a straightforward showdown with her and ask her what happened. As a lover, she should have met with sincerity. What can't be said? She is so evasive and mysterious, and ghosts believe she must have nothing to hide from you.
In short, young people should not only talk about romance, but also be down-to-earth and truthful about their feelings. Imagine that a relationship that cannot be clearly seen by the other person will last? Is it reliable? Can it be true love? Ambiguous love is not worth it!
