Half a year after obtaining my certificate, a WeChat account disrupted my life. I wanted to divorce but was afraid of others gossiping

My family and Xueer's family are neighbors, and we have been good friends since we were young. We were childhood sweethearts and childhood friends. At the age of seventeen, Xueer's father passed away from cancer, leaving her and her mother alone. Seeing her sad appearance, I secretly made up my mind to treat her well and never let her suffer any injustice.

The departure of Xueer's father dealt a great blow to her, even feeling a bit depressed. Especially when she saw me interacting with my father and son, she would hide in the distance and peep. I called her, but she ran home without looking back and hid. My parents asked me to take care of her more, thinking about her when it's delicious, delicious, and fun. Ke Xueer has a strong sense of self-esteem. In her eyes, my care was just charity and sympathy. During that time, she kept getting angry with me every day, making me feel embarrassed and helpless.

As time passed and she grew older, she gradually accepted me. We were studying at the same university at the same time, and at the beginning of our relationship, we established a relationship. After graduation, I got engaged and everything went smoothly. Due to Xueer's excellent academic performance, she was taken over by her relatives abroad for further education for a year. Initially, she disagreed, but considering her family situation, she gave up love and chose to study, hoping to use knowledge to change her destiny. The two of us have been in a long-distance relationship for a year, and every month I will provide a portion of my salary to cover her living expenses.

She returned and worked as an assistant to the general manager of a large company, revealing her extraordinary temperament through maturity. After she stabilized, we held a wedding and each of us was busy with their careers. After getting married, life was very ordinary. She only focused on her own work and rarely cared about my life. When she came back in the evening, she was also busy chatting on her phone. It has been half a year since she got the certificate. The life is as tasteless as boiled water. Even on honeymoon, she refuses to have time.

Later, unintentionally, I looked at the chat records between her and her best friend, which roughly meant that she married me just to fulfill the wishes of the elderly in both families, and she only had a brotherly relationship with me. She loves a boy named Tao in their company

She has something in her heart, but she stays by my side for the sake of so-called morality. I thought our love would last forever, but now it seems like just a joke. I don't want to use this so-called morality to kidnap her, but how should I speak up? My parents send us great hopes, and I don't want to disappoint them, let alone let others gossip. What should I do?

reply:

The departure of your wife's father has made her feel uneasy. Your care and care have given her a sense of security, mistaking this security for love. She accepts your kindness to him, remembers it in her heart, and rewards you by getting married. When a man appeared next to her who made her heart beat, she realized that the reward was not love, but gratitude. She mistook your love for her as a form of sympathy and compassion.

Anyway, since you are already married, you should fulfill your responsibilities as husband and wife. Her current identity, with a sense of belonging, is disrespectful towards marriage. You should brace yourself and reverse her mindset. Open up each other's hearts and let them feel your feelings for her. It's important to communicate more, narrow the distance between you, cultivate more interests and hobbies, cultivate a sense of understanding, and give your marriage more patience. I believe that after a period of adjustment, your relationship will greatly improve.