Post Date December, 03 2023
Divorce is not easy, and remarriage is more difficult, which is a common phenomenon in our existing marriage system. Why does this phenomenon exist? I think there are three reasons:
One is that although the existing marriage system emphasizes the emotional foundation, monogamous marriage is essentially a product of private ownership and a carrier for the inheritance and expansion of private property in the form of consanguinity. Therefore, in this marriage system premised on economic interests, most people's marriages are not the kind of love union described in myths, but various interest communities based on practical needs, or blood communities linked by the offspring of marriage, with very little emotional content between the husband and wife.
The second is that this lack of love in marriage exists in large numbers, even becoming the mainstream of marriage in the entire society, making the unhappiness of emotions absolute in existing marriages, while the happiness of emotions is only relative.
Thirdly, based on the above two premises, people divorce and remarry under a marriage system where their feelings are absolutely unsatisfactory, constantly changing their marriage partners, rather than fundamentally denying the existing marriage system, which is tantamount to low-level repetition on the same level. In this way, except for blind cats bumping into dead mice and occasional encounters with true lovers, most people are unlikely to achieve a higher level of satisfaction in remarriage. To take an inappropriate analogy, this is like our state-owned enterprises. Due to the shortcomings of the system, no matter how we change the factory director and general manager, we cannot get out of the dilemma, so we have to ultimately restructure.
Unfortunately, our existing marriage system is far from reaching the stage where it must be reformed, and monogamy is still the only form of marriage prescribed by our laws. Therefore, in the current system of divorce and remarriage, there can be no institutional breakthrough, and only existing marriage rules can be followed, and new marriages can be formed based on practical needs, with very little real love achieved. In this way, rather than switching from one person to another in most cases, it is better not to change at the beginning, or even if it has already been changed, because it still doesn't fit, than to go back and start over with the person you once felt the best about, which will make the original harmony a bit more.
Therefore, in this sense, good horses also eat grass.
(Intern Editor: Chen Hao)
