Post Date December, 03 2023
Modern men and women fall in love like luck, and therefore believe that love is resignation. In fact, it is not. Love is an artistic creation that requires exquisite craftsmanship and continuous dedication. Otherwise, the tree of love will wither and there will be no results. In fact, it is the withered tree of love, rather than who is right and who is wrong, that has become a common reason for couples to break up.
Most Chinese people do not believe that love is an artistic creation. A man usually thinks that as long as his wife is still having sex with him, everything will be okay. Modern men often regard sexual life as an activity to relieve boredom, a physical exercise to relax them, and a psychological first aid when they are exhausted. But modern women are tired of the routine sex life that serves men. It seems that her requirements for her husband are mainly not in terms of sex, but rather in terms of warmth and consideration, followed by success, earning more money, propping up the facade of the family, and having a proud father for her children. After a tiring day at work and housework, she just wants to grab a good sleep. The routine sex life is an additional burden on her. As a result, women's frigidity has almost become a common disease, which makes men feel tortured, helpless, helpless, and shameless.
Responses to the above situations vary between men and women. For a man with meaning, this is only a temporary difficulty. On the one hand, the coldness of the marital relationship may also make him feel dissatisfied, but on the other hand, he will try his best to make changes. For example, plan a couple to go on vacation or lighten their work load to have the energy and time to spend with their family. Wise men may even consider "changing their lives" to avoid letting career success ruin family happiness.
However, many men lack content, self-confidence, and a sense of security. For them, having less sex is like experiencing a disaster in their lives, and they are constantly in constant fear. They greatly exaggerated the significance of sexual life. Perhaps, some men have been emotionally depressed since childhood, leading to physical and mental rigidity later. Only sexual life can generate some slight vitality for them. Therefore, sex became the only key that could open the door of his soul. If this key was lost, his feelings could be imagined.
It can also be further analyzed that if a boy is not brought up with a father's love, he will never be able to shake off the "Oedipus complex.". After his marriage, he merely transferred his attachment to his mother to his wife. So when he lacks sex, he feels like he lacks love - his need for love remains in infancy. Once he lacks the love of his wife, he is almost as frightened as his mother left him in the cradle to starve. Men aged 35 to 45 are most likely to experience this feeling of sexual hunger and thirst. At this time, men may suffer from depression, feeling hopeless, helpless, aggrieved, and weak. "He may become irritable, or seek stimulation and compensation outside, so" extramarital love "is also prone to occur among such men.". However, changing a woman won't help, because he still hasn't broken away from his inherent psychological and behavioral motivations, and eventually finds himself "in prison again.". In fact, the man in this situation does not need a woman to rescue him, but rather needs to face up to the essence of the problem and summon the courage to walk out of this "dark night" of life. The kind of man who takes a woman's love and sex as his emotional support is as tragic as being addicted to alcohol or drugs.
And if this kind of man can make more friends among his peers, that is, men, it may help him to spend the "dark night" of life as soon as possible. The admonitions, comforts, education, and guidance men give men are often more pertinent than those women give men. Of course, men also need to be cautious in choosing male friends, avoiding both men who are in sympathy with you and who always have a negative impact on you, as well as extremists who hate women.
A man who walks through the long "dark night" will no longer be a "big boy", will no longer seize his wife like an oedipus, and will no longer be violent. He will be free and alone, appropriately close to his wife, care for children, and know how to treat his wife equally. Such a man, who can hold up and put down, can stretch and bend, can have the charm of a true man.
