Post Date December, 03 2023
Self esteem is an inherent psychological quality of everyone, and for men, it is particularly precious. Men have a strong self-esteem, and if they hurt their self-esteem in life, they will be overwhelmed. Especially for women, it's easy to fall in love with men if they do something slightly wrong. Here are five things that can most easily hurt a man's self-esteem.
Five things that hurt a man's self-esteem
1. Public Life Privacy
When women get together, they enjoy talking about their husband's shortcomings, even sharing their private life with their girlfriends, and telling others about the unhappiness of their husband's life. This can make men feel that their secrets are no longer secrets, and they can also be used as afternoons conversation, easily affecting their relationship.
2. Indifferent to his boasting
Men have somewhat heroic dreams, occasionally showing off their past glory to colleagues, buddies, or partners. "If the other person doesn't respond at this time, or says something like, 'It's nothing,' or 'It's not interesting,' then a man's psychology will inevitably produce a sense of loss.".
3. Evaluate him as being small-minded or timid
Everyone is afraid of being accused of their weaknesses, for example, the poor are afraid of being accused of being poor, and the upstart is afraid of being accused of being uneducated. For men, being perceived as lacking broad mindedness or cowardice is the most shameless. Whether female colleagues, classmates, or buddies, whether intentional or unintentional, such evaluations can greatly harm a man's self-esteem. Especially when hearing these words from his wife, he will feel that even the closest person does not respect him, which is even more devastating.
4. Mention his embarrassment in public
Regardless of gender, there are always people who like to expose their shortcomings in public, such as "sharing a room with Xiao Wang on a business trip and getting dizzy from his feet", and "Xiao Li likes to pick his nostrils when he's free." Although it doesn't involve principles, it can greatly reduce a man's conscious image. Some people like to make fun of their male colleagues and boyfriends' positions and income, which can make the parties feel that their abilities are being denied, thereby hurting their self-esteem. In addition, it is embarrassing to often ask single men about their relationships, whether they are acting out of kindness or malice.
5. Praising another man in his face
If a wife appreciates celebrities such as Beckham and Tom Cruise, it is believed that most men will not be unhappy because it is far from their own lives. "However, if a wife or well-connected female colleague often praises his male colleague or his buddies or brothers in front of a man, it can hurt a man's self-esteem.". It's like being compared to a neighbor's child by parents as a child. The closer you get, the more embarrassing it becomes.
Men are always considered open-minded, so whether they are wives, colleagues, or friends, when they are dissatisfied with the men around them, they always point out without hesitation. The director of the Evaluation Department of the Mental Health Promotion Center of the Institute of Psychology of the Chinese Academy of Sciences pointed out that men are actually "face animals", and the biggest harm to their self-esteem is often not from difficulties and poverty, but some casual words in life.
Perhaps some female friends will say that even caring about this matter, men are really cautious. This is not because men are cautious, but because men love face more. You can beat him or scold him, but you can't expose his shortcomings, which will make him very sad. Therefore, women should learn to protect men's self-esteem.
