Post Date November, 17 2024
Nowadays, infidelity is everywhere, and the divorce demography is also high. So, why do men have the mentality of wanting to cheat? What should women do to deal with men's cheating? Let's take a look at the five major policies to deal with men's cheating together.
1. The disaster caused by loneliness
When people are lonely and empty, they naturally develop a pursuit of the opposite sex. Men who are not satisfied with their sexual life in marriage, such as during their wife's pregnancy or when they suffer from physical discomfort, may "poach" outside to satisfy their sexual desire.
2. Revenge mentality causing mischief
If a man discovers his wife's extramarital affair, he may become furious and retaliate. This is a phenomenon of emotional transfer caused by the crisis in marriage.
3. Sexual indulgence and moral imbalance
Social attitudes are open, and some people's moral sense is increasingly declining. The so-called new human hedonism towards the body seems to be breaking through traditional values and living in a new trend. In some men's concepts, the more women they "bubble", the more they can demonstrate their male charm.
4. Resurrection with First Love Girlfriend
If a man's marriage partner is not his first love, the first person who may cheat in the future is his first love, of course, it happens in the right place and in the right mood. Because the human soul instinctively pursues a perfect ending. If a man has a deep affection for his first girlfriend and puts in a lot of expectations, but the result cannot be satisfactory, he will naturally be deeply hurt in his heart. In the future, once the conditions are ripe and unexpected encounters occur with a first love girlfriend (assuming she has been unhappy or divorced, etc.), the man will fly like a moth to the fire and rush towards the original woman.
5. The convenience provided by the times
The fast transmission of information such as the internet and mobile phones provides favorable means for men to capture more extramarital affairs.
So, what attitude and countermeasures should we take when men cheat?
Inspirational strategy: Returning to 'good times'. Target audience: Patients with aesthetic fatigue
If your love has gone through the romantic rainy season and flowering season, it has become a "three five itch", and at this time, marriage may need to pause and rest. If one of them starts seeking joy and empathy, the pressure may improve on the woman's side. There are many ways to improve, and the most important thing is to find the good times when you fell in love in the past. The usual cycle for a man to have an affair is about 6 months. If you cherish your past love relationship and your marriage, you need to leave enough time for them to "return to their home". Use your love and tenderness to awaken his moving heart and return to your love nest.
Problem based strategy: Give him enough time to heal. Target audience: Men who have been injured
Marriage is in trouble, relationships are in crisis, and men will choose unhealthy ways to solve it. The sexual retaliation against your husband is a psychological reaction caused by his betrayal. In fact, men suffer a deeper psychological burden than women in the same situation at this time. He felt that his self-esteem had been compromised and there was nowhere to complain. So, if you still care about this marriage, give him enough time to heal. Of course, it would be great to encourage him to go see a counselor with you.
Keeping up with the times strategy: resolutely not becoming a "computer widow". Target audience: Mr. Computer
We cannot return to an era where information is not interfering, but we can turn its impact from negative to positive. In terms of personality, men are more likely to be autistic than women, and making friends and chatting on the internet and mobile phones allows them to freely confide in their true feelings, which greatly helps them escape reality. The mechanical communication of keyboard and mouse style gradually develops a strong dependence mentality, while losing their original interest in normal family life. So you should communicate with him more. If he knows he can confide in you all his troubles and get the greatest comfort from you, he can no longer be infatuated with those virtual online lovers.
Constructive strategy: couples share "space time". Target audience: Lonely men and hippie men
Men seeking comfort outside due to boredom or sexual indulgence actually expose the insufficient connotation of your marriage. Wise women can seek help from 'space time'. The meaning of "space time" is to strengthen the rules of emotional connection between couples, such as spending at least one afternoon a week alone together, setting aside work, family, and children's distractions, and fully enjoying the warmth of their world. Adhering to the "space time" between spouses can actively enhance the intimacy and fulfillment of marriage. When the inner feeling improves, naturally the man's heart will go home. Improving the quality of sexual life is also important. The poor quality of marital life is not the responsibility of either party, but rather the responsibility that both parties should strive to share.
